Abandoned Books of 2015

Back when I first started blogging, I tracked my abandoned books. That year (2008), I abandoned three, and I remember each of them because I mini-reviewed them. As my reading pace skyrocketed, I mostly stopped reviewing abandoned books. Periodically, I’d write about books I abandoned when I felt that they needed blog-time, even if they didn’t work for me. This year, I decided to do something a little different. If I abandoned a book (not the same as previewing and deciding not to read), I would track it on Goodreads. If I abandoned the book after the 50% mark, I’d save it up for mini-review at the end of the year, because I feel those books still deserve blog time, even if they didn’t quite work for me. Someone else might love them!! So, in order of when I read them, these are my abandoned books of 2015:

1. The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin – I started this one near the beginning of the year, loving the idea of a project to increase happiness in a time when I was personally very miserable. I read about half the book, and while it wasn’t bad, I didn’t feel like this was the kind of project I needed.

cover-cold-magic2. Cold Magic by Kate Elliott – I’d had this book for years, and the beginning of it was fascinating. I loved the idea of a temperature-based magic system, and the situation the narrator is immediately put into. After about 350 of 500+ pages, I was really frustrated. Every chapter seemed to involve a long backstory that interrupted the action, and the action seemed like a continuous cat-and-mouse game. By the time I got to 350 pages, I decided this one wasn’t for me.

3. Painless by SA Harazin – Fascinating premise about a teen with a disorder, unable to feel pain, and therefore always in danger. He’s trying to learn how to live like a normal person, rather than being committed to a home. The writing and characterization, unfortunately, didn’t work for me, but I kept reading it for a long time because the idea was so interesting.

dietland4. Dietland by Sarai Walker (audio) – I probably listened to about 90% of this book. I loved the beginning, but the satire sections, with the militant feminist group (involving torture and rape and all sorts of brutal things) made me very uncomfortable. And while uncomfortable isn’t a bad thing in literature, I discovered that the book was having the opposite of its intended effect on me. Instead of feeling like I should embrace and love myself without regards to social expectations, I felt compelled to work as hard as possible to fit into those expectations. This is not where my priorities lie this year!

5. The Diver’s Clothes Lie Empty by Vendela Vida – This one wasn’t bad, but after about 75% of it, I realized I could put it down and never pick it up again, and it wouldn’t bother me to not know how it ended. Honestly, months later, I don’t even remember what this one was about. I think there was a movie star in it… However, I do know it was reputed to be a literary exploration of identity, and I expect that others would love it.

220px-LadiesGraceAdieu6. The Ladies of Grace Adieu by Susanna Clarke (audio) – I really wanted to love this story collection. I loved Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell, and I knew these stories were set in the same world and sometimes featured the same characters. I couldn’t get into the print version (didn’t help that my copy smelled strongly of mold), and I made it through nearly all the stories on audio. I didn’t really enjoy any of them, though, and gave up. Partly, though, I wonder if this was just my mood. It was during my September slump. I won’t rule out coming back to these another time. After all, Clarke has proven herself the master of the comeback.

7. The Bone Season by Samantha Shannon – I adored this one when I began it. The world-building was awesome. I loved so much of it. Then my September slump interfered (again), and I didn’t read anything for a few weeks. When I returned, I was less interested. I noticed some issues with the world-building and characterization. I saw that it was the first of seven books in a series. I was literally 60 pages from the end when I gave it up, and I have no regrets. Again, just not for me.

marvels8. The Marvels by Brian Selznick – While I loved Hugo Cabret, this book by Selznick didn’t work for me. I loved the first half, that was all illustration, but once the illustrations disappeared and there was a long block of text for 210 pages, I was bored. I wasn’t interested in that particular story, and while there was part of me that wished I knew the text story so that I could go on to the end of the book (all illustration again), it wasn’t strong enough to keep me reading. I wish this had been more integrated rather than segmented.

9. Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? by Mindy Kaling (audio) – I think this was a combination of me expecting the book to be something  it wasn’t (cultural/sociological humor vs how Kaling got into comedy writing) and me not being a huge fan of TV or comedy shows. The audiobook is four disks long and I quit this one halfway through the third. It was funny at times, but I didn’t know any of the shows or actors/actresses/writers/etc she was talking about, so I personally found it hard to engage with the book. Totally recommended for people who know much more about TV than me, though!

So those were my abandoned in 2015. I hope some of them work much better for all of you guys than they did for me!!

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Sunday Coffee – A Decade of Rowling

IMG_3571July 2005. Half Blood Prince has just been released, and I’ve still never read Harry Potter. Jason comes home one day, arms laden with HP volumes and a tale of his sister twisting his arm to read them. Okay, okay, I’ll read them, too…just so I can say, “See? I don’t like Harry Potter!”

Famous last words, right?

I became obsessed. Over the next year, I read those six books about a dozen times each. If I hadn’t been moving from Wisconsin to Texas, living out of others’ homes for six months, and then transitioning to full-time stay at home mom (to three boys aged five-and-under), I probably wouldn’t have gone full-on obsessed. But I did, and in the years following, I reread the HP series nearly every year.

Recently, I realized that ten years had passed since that first racing gallop through Harry’s world. And while I haven’t read the series every single one of those ten years, I have read Rowling every single year, right up to my recent finish of Career of Evil. Seven HP books, plus three auxiliaries; one standalone literary novel, and three crime-fiction books under a pseudonym. So far, she’s written nothing I’ve disliked. In fourteen books. Which is kinda amazing.

It’s my decade of Rowling. A celebration of the author I’ve probably read most from (counting rereads) in my adult life. (Possibly in all my life.) Cheers to Rowling. I lift my coffee mug to her!

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This is What Happy Looks Like, by Jennifer Smith

happyAn email goes awry, and two teens from opposite sides of the country begin to converse. Over months of correspondence, they get close – but not close enough to reveal some pretty important secrets about themselves. When they finally meet in person, those secrets might be enough to break their tentative friendship.

Right about this time every year, I fall into a mood for light, fluffy comfort reads. This was exactly what I needed. Yeah, the plot may be completely implausible and the more literary part of my brain had all sorts of issues with the book, but this is a case of right book right time. It was sweet, and charming, and comforting. A happy little love story that you know, from the first page, will end with a happily ever after, no matter how many trials it will take to get there. I enjoyed it very much.

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Wellness Wednesday #15: Reboot

buttonAs mentioned last week, in mid-November I realized I needed a wellness reboot. I want to be actively working toward my goals of strength, flexibility, kindness, confidence, and health. Some of these goals have suffered due to neglect and other issues, and I found four places where changes were needed.

Food
What I’ve been doing: Basically ignoring everything and eating whatever I grab, regardless of hunger or nutrition. I’ve stopped eating freggies and real foods, and I splurge far more than is healthy. The plan going forward: I need to relearn how to eat for longterm  health. There are certain foods that I simply cannot indulge in because of their effect on my system – alcohol and gluten – so I’m cutting them out completely. I’m also trying to minimize sugars and flour, and I’m back to tracking calories. When tracking, the goal is to eat at maintenance level for my goal weight (roughly 1700-2200 calories, depending on exercise that day). Lastly, I must get in 3-5 freggies per day. (Notably: There are days/weeks when I’m unequal to tracking. Rather than push myself and disorder my eating further, my goal is to be mindful and try to maintain my weight during those times.)

Fitness
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What I’ve been doing: Almost nothing. Between crippling anxiety and depression, and this stupid ankle injury, I’ve gone about 18 months without regular exercise. The plan going forward: I bit the bullet and went to Airrosti for my ankle, and I bought a hybrid elliptical/bike (–>) for low impact exercise. The plan is to incorporate yoga (for strength, flexibility, and general wellness), more walking, and some moderate cardio a few times per week. Stretching, foam-rolling, and continued ankle therapy are musts, and I need to keep my fitness plans moderate so that I don’t overtrain like before.

Therapy
What I’ve been doing: Floundering. Trying to do everything on my own. The plan going forward: I’m trying to find the right therapist for me, which has been really tough since moving back to Texas. Yoga, meditation, and daily focus on breath helps me outside of therapy. Furthermore, I’m trying to learn self-compassion and mindful non-judging, and indulging in non-food things. Furthermore, I’m now set up for massage twice monthly as a form of touch therapy.

Body Image
modclothWhat I’ve been doing: Alternating between an “I’ll wear/look how I please” attitude and crippling anxiety about my body, and dealing with the latter only by ignoring it or binging. The plan going forward: While I do want to love my body, I also need to separate that love from my need to take care of my health (mental and physical). I need to simultaneously nurture my body with positive reinforcement while also taking steps to improve it. This will involve focusing more on the health benefits of my food and fitness plans, minimizing scale usage, feeding myself body-positive messages, practicing mindful non-judging (again), and continuing to dress in ways that make me happy and confident.

True Confessions
When I decided to begin this wellness reboot in mid-November, I’d officially gained half my weight back. On the journey down, I celebrated that 50-lbs-lost line. Now, on the way up, that line is cause for mourning. Changing perspective, yeah?

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The above pictures are after losing 50 lbs (left) and after gaining 50 lbs (right). It’s not a perfect comparison, but I admit to being devastated by how much bigger I look now than I did then. I checked my measurements, now-and-then. With this picture comparison, I thought they’d be larger now, or at least roughly the same. Oddly, I was surprised to discover how much smaller my current measurements are. Even on the smallest body parts (neck, arm, calf), I’m 1-1.5 inches smaller now. That’s a significant difference!

I checked, and the last time I had these current measurements, I weighed 10 lbs less than I did in the above picture. Considering my results at Siclovia said that 11 lbs of my regain has been muscle mass, I suppose that makes sense. And I guess that’s one little bright spot in the devastation that is 50 lbs regained.

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TBR Priorities of 2016

Last week, I talked about my most anticipated 2016 releases. These, of course, will be reading priorities in the upcoming year. Additionally, I have unread books on my shelves and on my virtual TBR shelf that will be high priority in 2016. I like to keep as close to a zeroed-out TBR pile as possible, especially when it comes to books on my shelves.

In 2015, I entered the year uncomfortable with how many unread books I had facing me. There were nine on my shelves, eight in audio queue, four on my virtual TBR, and over 30 in my “to-investigate” list. I’m pleased to say that of the nine on my shelves, only one remains unread. The rest were either read or culled. I also have no outstanding audio queue, very few “to investigate” books, and only three virtual TBR books (none of which were there last year). So I am in a much better place for starting 2016 than I was for starting 2015, and the following books, in addition to my anticipated 2016 releases, will be top priority for me in the upcoming year.

On My Shelf (fiction)
words of radiance1. Words of Radiance by Brandon Sanderson – This was on my list last year. I need to reread the first book before I can read this one, and because they’re both around 1000 pages, I keep putting them off, even though I want to read them!

2. East Lynne by Ellen Wood – I first heard about this book at the conference I attended in New Hampshire this April and have wanted to read it ever since.

3 & 4. The Well of Lost Plots and Something Rotten by Jasper Fforde – It’s about time I continued this series!

On My Shelf (nonfiction)
how sex changed5. How Sex Changed by Joanne Meyerowitz – Adam gave me this book in a bookswap earlier this year and I’m really looking forward to it!

6. the Qur’an – I’ve read the Bible and the Book of Mormon, and would like to add this to my list of theological texts.

7. Health and Wellbeing: Yoga by Charmaine Yabsley and David Smith – Not sure how much I can learn about yoga through a book, but hey, it’s worth a shot.

Virtual TBR
shadowscale8. Shadow Scale by Rachel Hartman – like Words of Radiance, I need to reread Seraphina first and just haven’t done so yet.

9. Dawn by Octavia Butler – see description for East Lynne above

10. Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls by Jes Baker – This is the newest book added to my pile. I’ve heard great things!

That’s it! My ten TBR priorities of 2016.

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Sunday Coffee – November Plot-twists

IMG_3309Remember how I said November was going to be a quiet one on the blog? Yeah… Instead, there were three plot twists this past month:

1. I realized I couldn’t keep ignoring my health issues, and had to change priorities mid-month.

2. I read and listened to some really fantastic books, and by mid-November, I was finished with everything I want to read in 2016. For the rest of the year, I’m switching into quiet, relaxing reread mode, as I usually do sometime near December. It just came around a little earlier this year.

3. I discovered, once again, that realistic fiction is not my writing wheelhouse. My NaNoWriMo novel? Nope. I would love to read that book, but there’s no way in hell that I want to write it. I stopped trying early in the month, and decided it would be better worth my time to keep plodding slowly along with the current second-draft-in-progress I’ve had going all year. My total word count (on both manuscripts) only came to about 24,000 words for November, but I still feel like I won, because I stayed true to myself as a writer.

So the month didn’t really go according to plan at all. That’s okay, though. I learned some important things and made some good decisions, and that makes it all worth it. Cheers!

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Career of Evil, by Robert Galbraith (audio)

Career_of_Evil_Oct_2015This is the third volume in the continuing series of Cormoran Strike’s detective agency. Strike’s assistant and business partner, Robin, has been sent a severed leg, and Cormoran immediately has a few ideas about who might have sent it. While his business dries up in the face of the inevitable nasty publicity, he and Robin follow the leads that the police aren’t taking as seriously as Cormoran would like. Meanwhile, the killer stalks Robin from place to place, and she’s so upset by the issues going on with her fiance that she’s just about walking into the trap…

Of the three volumes I’ve read so far, this is definitely my favorite. That could be because it didn’t have as many issues as I remembered from the first two books (overly long explanation at the end of the first book, and stilted dialogue in the first half of the second book). It could be because I’ve gotten to know the characters and writing style better by now. However, I think the reason this worked better for me than the first two books (which I did enjoy despite my issues with them!) was that I listened to it on audio.

The Book Itself: Crime fiction, mysteries, and thrillers aren’t really my thing. I only read them rarely, and if I get into a series, like this one, it’s because of the writing and the characters. Tana French’s Dublin Murder Squad series is a good example of a crime series I plan to continue reading. The Cormoran Strike books are another. I like Cormoran, I adore Robin, and I like how wide-ranging and varied are the people they encounter. I think Galbraith (*coughRowlingcough*) does a lot of fantastic research on psychology, poverty (urban and rural), physical disabilities, inter-country variations in culture, and crime procedure. Furthermore, as the series goes along, I see improvements in writing and characterization, with overall growth of characters over time. So thumbs up on all of that.

The Audio Enhancement: Listening on audio helped me to hear the dialogue a bit better, and to deal with the constantly-shifting point of view. I’m still not a huge fan of the way the narrative switches in and out of various characters’ heads, sometimes on a sentence-by-sentence basis. I know it’s supposed to be omniscient, so I’m not sure if that kind of point of view just doesn’t work for me, or if it’s so rare that it’s unfamiliar when I hear it, or if it’s just hard to write and doesn’t come across well in this case. I did find it easier to understand on audio, though, because the narrator (Robert Glenister) had a way of making it very clear who was doing/thinking the action/thought at each moment. I definitely think I will listen to these books on audio from here on out – even though the audio sucked me in so quickly that I ended up listening to all sixteen disks in under two days, when I probably would have taken a week with the physical book. Totally worth it!

A Very Important Note: There is a lot of sexual violence, both historically and ongoing, discussed in the book. There is really no way to avoid it, either, as several of the suspects have histories of sex crimes. For the same reason, there’s also a lot of domestic abuse and child abuse (and child sexual abuse), so if any of those things are triggers for you, you’ll want to steer clear!

Performance: I mentioned that Robert Glenister did a great job of helping me to not be confused during all the point of view shifts. He was also a fantastic narrator in general. I loved his voices – listening to Cormoran was like listening to Hagrid, ha!! – and he did a great job making me feel the tension of the novel without ever pulling me out of the story. Last but definitely not least, all his various accents/dialects felt real instead of approximates. I generally have difficulty with accents and dialects in audiobooks, but I didn’t here, because Glenister did such a convincing job with them. It was almost like listening to a full cast, which is kinda awesome from a single narrator! Makes me want to revisit the first two books on audio!!

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Wellness Wednesday #14: Epic Battle

button(Post title courtesy of my middle son.)

A month ago, I talked about how I could trust my body, about how my body is good at self-regulation. This is true. However, I cannot trust my brain.

Simple solution, right? Go with body instincts and ignore the brain. Except, it’s not the logical brain that I can’t trust. The logical brain is mostly fine. It knows I need to be healthier, and what steps will take me that direction. The problem is with the “lower” brain, the part where instinct lives, and where logic does not penetrate. This is the part of the brain stuck chewing on trauma and fear and anxiety and depression, and the part of the brain that bypasses the body’s instincts, turning the usually trustworthy body into a weapon.

Body vs Brain, the ultimate epic battle!

I can tell myself until I’m blue in the face and I’ve lost my voice that I can trust my body, that I used to rely on that trust, that I should be able to rely on it still. But it’s not my body that’s the trouble. It’s my brain, mired in a thousand disordered bits, and the brain-trouble is going to take a Very Long Time to untangle. In the meantime, telling myself to trust my (brain-hijacked) body is tantamount to ignoring the physical crisis taking me over.

True Confessions
I only made it two weeks into No Number November before I looked at the scale. It wasn’t fear that drove me to look. It was the need for confirmation. Some of my new jeans stopped fitting, and a new symptoms I haven’t seen in years cropped up. I started waking up with random numb limbs and joints. This was common when I was very obese, but went away completely when I lost enough weight. Now it’s back, and sure enough, when I looked, the scale had continued to climb.

Tracking food (without calories or measurements) wasn’t helping. Eating mindfully wasn’t helping. Making daily food plans wasn’t helping. Eating by hunger cues wasn’t helping. I was, pretty much, ignoring everything and eating whatever the hell my body-brain asked for. And I can’t keep doing this! Yes, in the past, I’ve lost weight without needing to track calories or restrict certain triggery foods. However, just because something worked when I was in a much better brain-state doesn’t mean I can rely on it now. I need all new techniques for an all new situation.

So, Jason and I came up with plans for the second half of November (and beyond). I will discuss these plans more fully in future posts, but generally, they created a (hopefully sustainable) path toward better nutrition and physical health.

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Dear younger Manda,

Learn to adapt!! Things change, and so old methods that worked so well aren’t going to keep working. Remember that, and be flexible. It’ll serve you well in the future, I promise.

Love, modern-day Manda

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Most Anticipated 2016 Releases

Today’s Top Ten Tuesday topic asks about the 2016 debuts we’re most looking forward to. As usual, I have no idea what debuts are forthcoming. Not a single one.** So instead, I’m using today’s topic to list out my most anticipated 2016 releases (non-debut). (Yes, I know there’s an upcoming topic where I can address this. However, I have something else blog-planned that day.) In order of my anticipation anxiety:

the raven king1. The Raven King by Maggie Stiefvater – Does this surprise anyone? It was my most anticipated released for 2015, too…then it was delayed, and delayed again…sigh.

2. Bands of Mourning by Brandon Sanderson – Until Shadows of Self, this wasn’t high priority for me. Now I’m glad the wait will be short.

3. The Shadow Hour by Melissa Grey – Loved the first in this series, can’t wait for the second!

4. Something New by Lucy Knisley – More Knisley? Yes, please!

DROPOFNIGHT5. A Drop of Night by Stefan Bachmann – I first heard of this one in 2013 and have been waiting (through multiple delays) ever since!!

6. The Hunt by Megan Shepherd – see description of #3 above

7. Calamity by Brandon Sanderson – I hope the end of this trilogy is brilliant.

8. Crooked Kingdom by Leigh Bardugo – I hear this series will just be a duology, so hopefully this wraps up well!

Other possibilities with 2016 listed as tentative release year on GoodReads:

  • the second Goldseer book by Rae Carson
  • the second Magonia book by Maria Dahvana Headley
  • the next Lockwood & Co book by Jonathan Stroud

Also, this isn’t actually listed, anywhere, but can we please, please, please have more Tana French soon??

**Oh! I just realized, I do know a 2016 debut after all: Dreamology by Lucy Keating. I have no idea where I heard about this book, and it’s not in my most anticipated 2016 books (on a to-investigate list instead), but hey, I know one this year! That’s highly unusual for me, haha.

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Sunday Coffee – On Nonfiction

IMG_3153This year is peculiar for me in terms of reading habits. Since I began to track my books in 2008, my nonfiction reading rate has averaged 10% per year. This year, I’m steady at almost 30%. That is a huge jump, and beyond that, my best-of-2015 rankings currently include twice as many nonfiction titles as fiction titles. In all my combined six pre-2015 blog years, only three nonfiction titles made it into my best-of lists, and two of those only as runner-ups. This year? There will be six.

Back in January, I talked about my reading mood swings, and hypothesized that I was on a very short trend toward nonfiction. This is because I’ve never been tempted to read nonfiction for longer than about four to six weeks at a stretch. An extended mood like this one is a brand new experience for me.

And yet, I find that not all titles work for me, and that as usual, I’m super picky about what I choose and finish. This month, at Jason’s suggestion, I tried to read Unfamiliar Fishes by Sarah Vowell. The book didn’t work for me. It was too much like reading a history book. I don’t find history dull…in the right context, and this context is hard to explain. Jason, in suggesting the book, thought it would be a good one for me, because of the cultural and sociological history (which I normally love). But to me, it felt too big-picture, and I couldn’t get hooked into the narrative. Was that because I had no personal connection to the subject, and no personal interest that drove me to the book? Or was it because of the way the author approached the subject and the methodology of the book? No clue. I can’t adequately describe why some nonfiction works and some doesn’t. That makes it really hard to find titles when I’m in this kind of mood!

Still, I’m grateful for what I have come across this year. Some of the books I’ve read have been life-changing on multiple levels, and I feel that I’m starting to understand what does/doesn’t work for me, which hopefully will make it easier to find good nonfiction Manda-books in the future. Maybe next year, I’ll officially participate in Nonfiction November. I was sorely tempted this year!

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