The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, by Marie Kondo

life-changingSubtitled: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

So…basically this is a kind of self-help course in decluttering and organizing, as the subtitle suggests. It’s been traveling around the blogosphere for a time now, and I first heard about it from Gricel. This is not the sort of book I should have been in the least bit interested in. I don’t usually read self-help or get much from it when I do, and I’m a fairly organized and efficient person to boot. However, the things I’ve read from other bloggers intrigued me, and so I spent half an hour in Barnes & Nobles one evening, previewing it. After half an hour, I did something I almost never do. I bought the book despite not having read (most of) it yet.

Things I was told about this book: that there were some eye-rolling parts; that there were great tips about putting both your stuff and your life in order; that it was useful even for people who are naturally tidy and/or organized. My thoughts on these three after finishing? Sure, I can see what was called eye-rolling, but nothing made me personally roll my eyes, and in fact, I liked those parts! There were definitely great tips for both stuff and life, even for naturally tidy/organized people like myself. In other words, the book confirmed all the good things I’d heard and also contradicted the bad things. Awesome.

Let me put it this way. I’m an organized, efficient person who already does not like to collect superfluous things. I don’t generally like/enjoy self-help or pseudo-spiritual books. Actually, I don’t often like a whole lot of nonfiction in general. This book? Not only was I unable to put it down, but I wanted to read it a second time right away. I’ve never multi-read a nonfiction book before! Not only did I start seeing myself and my belongings in a whole different way, but I began to explore my personal spirituality more than I have in recent years. I’m also trying to get everyone in my family to read this book. I want to start using the KonMari technique immediately, but I’m forcing myself to wait until we’ve fully moved into the new house and the boys start school in August. In a word, this book was transformative – and that’s before I actually begin the work of tidying! I can only guess how much more powerful it will be once I begin to use what I’ve learned.

I am really looking forward to organizing my space. I love organizing, always have, and I can’t wait to start applying this new method to my personal space. Wish I could do the whole house, but with a husband and three pre-teen/teenage boys, that’s simply not going to work out. Now if I could get them all to read this book…

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Top Ten Books That Celebrate Diversity

This is both a fantastic topic and a very difficult topic – difficult because I’ve read so many great books of many sorts of diversity and it was hard to narrow down to a top ten! I debated between choosing the top ten of a particular type of diversity versus many types, and decided to go with the latter. In no particular order:

Between_Mom_and_Jo1. Between Mom and Jo by Julie Anne Peters – brilliant, heartwrenching YA about a boy whose moms are splitting

2. Mornings in Jenin by Susan Abulhawa – looking at the Palestinian/Israeli conflict from the Palestinian side

3. Born on a Blue Day by Daniel Tammet – nonfiction memoir by an autistic gay man with synesthesia

4. The Good Earth by Pearl S. Buck – generational classic about a Chinese family

5. Sold by Patricia McCormick – poignant YA about the underage sex trade in Asia

6. The Rock and the River by Kekla Magoon – YA that focuses on US civil rights in the mid-1900s

book_untellingBIG7. The Untelling by Tayari Jones – one of the best books I’ve ever read portraying the realities of urban poverty

8. Sweetness in the Belly by Camilla Gibb – European-born, African-raised refugee narrator with a mixed Muslim-and-traditional-folk faith

9. the Girl of Fire and Thorns trilogy by Rae Carson – shows that fantasy can explore diversity as well!

10. Reading Lolita in Tehran by Azar Nafisi – nonfiction about oppressed women and religious minorities in Iran

What’s on your list?

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Sunday Coffee – Tidbits

IMG_1221Good morning, everyone!

It’s one of those weeks for me, the kind that involves miscellaneous bits and pieces as my family tries to fully settle into the new place. Jason now has a place to go to work during the day, and we’re working on getting a second car. Morrigan has an interview on Wednesday with the agriculture magnet school that he’d love to get into, and has also been spending a lot of time with his best-friend-since-kindergarten. Ambrose will be turning thirteen this week (!!). Both he and Laurence are also settling into the summer routine. My big goal is to get back to my paralegal studies this week, which have been sorely neglected for the last month because of this move!

Also neglected? My health. I haven’t talked much about my health, fitness, and weight since reopening The Zen Leaf. Those who have known me for a long time know that I went on a weight loss journey in 2011-2013, losing about 105 lbs total. The last year has done a number on me, and I’ve regained about 30-35 lbs. This morning, my Wii Fit told me I was officially obese again (ugh). So today begins a new weight loss journey. I’m not going to talk about it much here – I’ll keep those posts out at Sparkpeople – but I’m hoping to embrace a more positive approach to weight loss this time, a self-loving approach instead of self-hating.

IMG_1220In general, I’m trying to be more positive in the way I see and do things. My PTSD has caused me to see the world in a generally hostile light for decades, and I’m trying to turn that around. Little things. Color-therapy has been wonderful. Yoga. Oh man, yoga. I swear, I never realized how good yoga would make me feel! Then there’s signing up with Ipsy (thanks, Amanda!) and eagerly anticipating my first glam bag. Who is this person trying all these new things?? Ha!

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And, of course, there are friends. It is so good to be back in an area where so many friends and family members live. Yesterday, I had a little potluck gathering with a bunch of fellow writers, readers, and fitness-enthusiasts. These people are so awesome, and the wonderful feeling of love all gathered together in my living room was very good for my soul. 🙂

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Eleanor & Park, by Rainbow Rowell

Eleanor ParkPark is half-Korean and barely escapes bullying at school. Eleanor is the new girl, overweight and red-haired and oddly dressed, the target of bullying – and she sits next to Park on the school bus. The year is 1986. The friendship, and later romance, is unlikely, and destined to be ripped apart.

So here’s the deal with this book. When it came out, everyone was talking about it. Everyone. People were posting pictures of the back-and-forth sections, alternating Park’s and Eleanor’s views, and talking about how much they loved it. Everyone said it was a real weeper. And me? I didn’t think this was my kind of book. It’s grounded in the 80s, one of my least favorite decades. No one said anything about anything except the romance, which seemed a little dull if that was the entirety of the book. And I’m not a huge fan of rapidly-alternating sections in general, and that’s all anyone was posting in terms of pictures. Everything about Eleanor & Park screamed “not-Amanda!!!!!”

Then I read a really good writing pep talk by Rainbow Rowell, centering on her novel Fangirl. Then I read Fangirl, and adored it. Then I read Attachments, and liked it. Then I read Landline, and was blown away. And if all three of Rowell’s other books were either good to excellent, I knew I was going to have to dig past my barriers to try E&P.

Verdict: I put this in the same category as Attachments – good but not great. The romance was a little overdone for me, and I would have preferred for Park and Eleanor to have become friends-only (and that’s coming from someone who loves love stories in general!). The other characters seemed a bit underdeveloped. I would have loved some furthering of Eleanor’s family life, and Park’s family life, and especially of the whole Park-eyeliner plot. I did not cry, or ever even feel like crying, and I didn’t fall in love with the story.

But. It certainly captured my attention, and had me reading all the way through nonstop. I did love both Eleanor and Park, and thought they were very good round characters who were not always entirely good people. I thought the portrayal of Eleanor’s family was amazing and horrifying and realistic all at once. I thought Rowell captured the timbre of poverty and bullying and trauma well. I thought her main characters opened up and grew as the story went along.

In the end, I’m glad this wasn’t my first experience with Rowell, because I probably wouldn’t have gone on to read her other amazing books. At the same time, I’m glad I read it, too, because it makes me appreciate her evolution as a writer. Plus it was a fun, cute story, even if it won’t become one of my favorites.

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Last Ten Books Acquired

Today’s topic asks us what are the last ten books that came into our possession, through any possible means of acquisition (bought, borrowed, received for review, etc). Now, I’m a prodigious library-user, and the sort of reader who will borrow several dozen books for preview and then return them unread if they don’t make the cut. I’m not going to count those books toward this post. Below are my last ten acquired books that either made the cut and I finished, or I have waiting to try in my audio queue. From most recently acquired and then on back:

The Underground Girls of Kabul by Jenny Nordberg (audio) – via library on 7/10 – in queue
The Gospel of Loki by Joanne Harris (audio) – via library on 7/8 – in queue
The Rook by Daniel O’Malley (audio) – via library on 7/8 – in queue
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo – bought 7/7 – thumbs up!
Buddha Boy by Kathe Koja (audio) – via Sync YA on 7/2 – in queue
Echoes of an Angel by Aquanetta Gordon (audio) – via Sync YA on 7/2 – in queue
Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell – via library on 7/1 – thumbs up!
Emily and Einstein by Linda Frances Lee (audio) – via library on 7/1 – in queue
Monster by Walter Dean Myers (audio) – via Sync YA on 6/25 – in queue
Lord of the Flies by William Golding (audio) – via Sync YA on 6/25 – thumbs up!

So yeah, I’ve gotten a lot of audio lately. Mostly that’s because of all the packing, moving, unpacking, settling in, etc. My queue is growing overly large lately, though, so I’m sure soon I’m going to have a series of trial listens to weed out those that aren’t going to work for me…

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Sunday Coffee – Not Like Others

New ImageI began blogging about books in early 2008, and have done so off and on (mostly on) in the seven years since. During that time, I’ve come to realize that I’m a bit different from many book bloggers. I don’t say that in a disparaging way – toward myself or toward book bloggers. I love this community, and I love my kinda-unusual place inside it. The diversity and acceptance of this world is what makes it so wonderful.

It is okay that I am a book blogger that prefers to go out with friends instead of staying in to read a book. I am an extrovert. Yes, I love books, but I love people even more. I love discussing books with people. I love going to bookstores with friends, and meeting up with booknerds from around the world, and attending conferences, and going to book clubs, and making new friends. Hey, the reason I started blogging in the first place was to meet fellow like-minded people!

It is okay that I am a book blogger who focuses on decreasing the number of books I read each year. Years ago – through blogging, in fact – I discovered that my happiness did not increase with the number of books I read, and that actually, I began to resent books when I was reading dozens each month. I didn’t remember them, didn’t appreciate them, didn’t feel good reading them. It is hard for me to slow down and really take my time with each book, to give myself time and space between books, but when I push myself to do this, I get more of everything – pleasure, meaning, refreshment – from the written word.

It is okay that I am a book blogger who does not want to own a huge library of books. No, I don’t like to own a whole lot. I want to own only those books that I’ll revisit again and again, the books that make me happy. I don’t want to own books before I read them, and have no trouble not bringing new ones home. My public library system is wonderful, and my home library consists only of those books that bring me continuous happiness. This was recently brought home to me by a Facebook group for book-swapping, when I realized I literally have fewer than five books on my wishlist at present. And that’s okay.

It’s okay. It’s all okay. There is room for all different types of us in the book blogging world, and really, that makes me so very happy. I love all you people!

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The Rest of the Trip

Yesterday’s post was all about the first day of the trip, the really cursed day of the trip. It was awful, but we survived. The rest of the trip, while not entirely smooth, was at least not nearly as bad as Friday.

Saturday – the Day of Rain-Rain-RAIN
Saturday morning started off a bit iffy, when the hotel was a bit late (ie 2 hours late) getting breakfast out, due to an employee calling in sick. We got off later than we wanted, but determined to drive a huge chunk of the trip that day. I wanted to at least make it to Knoxville, TN, and possibly somewhere between Knoxville and Nashville. Unfortunately, as we were loading up the car, it began to rain. I checked the forecast, and realized it was going to be raining pretty much the entire day. In fact, the rain seemed to directly follow the line of the highway we’d be taking all day, through five states.

Aaaaand that’s pretty much how it went. Periodically, we had some light-rain periods, but they were interspersed between heavier rain, sometimes so heavy we had flashers on and were driving under 10mph. We didn’t get out of the rain until we turned off onto a new highway in Tennessee and began traveling west.

95 jacuzziOnly two other things of note on Day 2. At one point, we stopped for gas, and the gas pumps all thought our car had a full tank. It was on empty. I managed to squeeze in a few gallons until we could drive to a different gas station that worked, but I was really worried that I was going to be stranded in Virginia for a bit there. Secondly, we did actually make it all the way through Nashville, and stopped at a hotel on the other side, only to be told that every hotel in the Nashville area was full. We ended up getting the very last room in a Super 8 about half an hour further on, an awful hotel that at least made us giggle because there was a jacuzzi in the bedroom. Yes.

Sunday – the Day of Exhaustion
Honestly, not much happened on Sunday. I calculated how long I thought I could drive that day, and reserved a hotel in Temple, TX in advance. I didn’t want to end up searching in the dark like on Saturday! The day was hot and dry, and there was less than 10 miles of traffic total all day. Mostly, my only issue was that after about eight hours of driving, my body said ENOUGH IS ENOUGH and I pooped out completely. I had to keep driving, but OH MAN I was exhausted.

97 homeI was very glad that we didn’t decide to push our way through to San Antonio like Jason and Morrigan. We ended up making it to our hotel by 7:30, and had a little time to ourselves that night. The next morning, it only took two hours to make it to the new house. –>

I am so glad to be done traveling. The cat is glad to be out of the cage and car. The boys are settling in well and happy in this house. The Penske is returned despite all the stupid mess-ups. Things are getting back to normal, which means that I should soon be back to my normal posting schedule. 🙂

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I would drive 2000 miles…

So. Newton, MA to San Antonio, TX = roughly 2050 miles. About 3 days of travel, if you time it properly and don’t stop much along the way. Jason and Morrigan left in the Penske on Friday afternoon, pushed hard, and got into San Antonio late on Sunday night. The other two boys, plus our cat, left about an hour after the Penske, and arrived in San Antonio on Monday morning. All but the last two hours of travel happened on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, so those are the days that I’m going to focus on in this two-part series. Because Friday was the Really Crazy Day, this post will be All About Friday – the Day of Multiple Curses. Sound ominous? Yeah.

Friday – the Day of Multiple Curses
I didn’t sleep enough, of course, so Jason took an Uber to the Penske pickup while I gulped down coffee and started last minute packing/cleaning preparations. Curses started early. Penske had already lost our reservation a few days before this, and apparently, it was lost again by the time Jason arrived to pick up the truck. Sigh. Many phone calls and much finagling followed, and eventually, we were given a truck. This truck turned out to be 1) not actually registered to us and 2) a total piece of crap.

thumb 2After trying and failing to get into our driveway, we parked the Penske on the street and began to load. It was at this point that I managed to smash my thumb between a trunk and a 10-lb weight. Yowch. Otherwise, packing went smoothly. We had the truck all done by noon, and the plan was to go get food and then leave.

Except the city was repairing potholes on our street, and they wanted to do a spot right under the Penske. They asked us to back up to a different part of the road, and we were glad to do it – except the Penske wouldn’t start. Grr. Since the city trucks were already there, they jumpstarted us, and Jason and Morrigan decided to just leave then rather than risk it happening a second time. (For the record, it didn’t, though they also got tons of blaring alarms about random things that weren’t actually wrong – like the brake fluid being low when it wasn’t – and the truck nearly came apart en route, and then when we turned it in, it turned out the truck was registered to someone traveling from Boston to Albany, NY…)

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After Jason and Morrigan left, the other two boys and I got lunch, packed the van, shuffled the poor cat into his cage, and prepared to leave. At this point, Laurence became distraught. He does not like saying goodbye to things, and we experienced the same last year when we left our house in San Antonio. I let him go around the empty house and take pictures of everything before we left, and let him cry it all out as we drove out of town. He said goodbye to everything – familiar restaurants, schools, grocery stores, etc – bawling the whole time. As soon as we were out of our normal area, he felt better, and was happy and cheerful for the rest of the trip.

I’d like to say the rest of Friday when smoothly, but if you’ll recall, it was the Day of Curses, and so it did not. Even though it was only 1:30 in the afternoon, we ran into traffic almost immediately. It lasted a couple hours. Jason warning-texted us about traffic in Connecticut, and we ran into it on the other side of Hartford. Standstill traffic for hours, while Laurence began to feel lightheaded and dizzy, and no place to turn off. (Thankfully, a mini-nap revived him.) The cat was mewing like crazy, hating all the stop-start movement, really freaked out in a way he wasn’t when we made the trip last year. The traffic didn’t stop until we crossed into New York.

Thankfully, I didn’t get lost in NYC this time. Yay! And we didn’t run into more traffic after that. My original intentions were to reach Bethlehem, PA on the first day…but I’d expected to not get on the road until 5-ish. Since we got off at 1:30, I expected to get a lot further. Traffic, however, turned the normally 4.5-hr drive from Newton to Bethlehem into an 8-hr drive. We made it just slightly further, into Allentown, before we stopped. To put that into perspective: When we made the trip north, we drove from halfway through Virginia all the way to Newton in about 9 hrs. We drove maybe 2/3rds of that distance – maybe – in 8.5 hrs this time. Sigh.

In the evening, the fates took pity on us. I didn’t know which hotels were pet-friendly, and I saw a sign for Comfort Inn. I asked Siri if Comfort Inn allowed pets, and got back the miraculous reply, “Good news! You’re approaching a Comfort Inn in 1.8 miles and they seem to have a pet-friendly policy!” Thank you, Siri. Thank you, Apple. Thank you thank you thank you.

And they did have a pet-friendly policy, and we got the very last room available. Yes. With relief, we settled in for the night.

I’ll be back tomorrow to discuss the rest of the trip!

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Top Ten Hyped Books I’ve Never Read

I’m not a real big hype person, meaning that I don’t pay much attention to whether or not a book has a lot of hype. I don’t go out of my way to pick up books that win awards and praise, but I also don’t go out of my way to avoid them, either. Instead, I treat them like any other books, and read them if they sound interesting. Here is a list of the top ten hyped books that I have no interest whatsoever in reading. They just don’t seem like my kind of books.

1. Water for Elephants by Sara Gruen
2. The Help by Kathryn Stockett
3. The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd
4. The Martian by Andy Weir
5. The DUFF by Kody Keplinger
6. Life of Pi by Yann Martel
7. Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James
8. Eating Animals by Jonathan Safran Foer
9. The Road by Cormac McCarthy
10. Ready Player One by Ernest Cline

Tell me – am I wrong about any of these? Should I try them despite them not seeming like my kind of book? Because I’m often wrong about this…I just finished Eleanor & Park, which I never thought I’d enjoy, and mostly enjoyed it…

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Sunday Coffee – Home Sweet Home

coffee rackHello everyone! Oh. Man. I LOVE being home!

We are settling in pretty well. The 3.5-day trip went as well as can be expected, with only a few hiccups (more about the trip in general in a future post), and I fell in love with our new house instantly. We’d seen it in pictures, and our realtor (my cousin) walked us around on facetime so that we could get a feel for it, but really, it was a gamble, buying a house sight unseen. A gamble that totally paid off. Seriously. IN LOVE with this house.

It’s not entirely put together yet, but considering we’ve only been here for six days now, I think we’re doing pretty well. Especially given that on Thursday evening, my aunts wrote and asked if I could babysit a stray kitten over the weekend, and we’ve spent a lot of time helping the new baby and our old big fat cat get used to each other. Which they are now. And this babysitting gig might just turn out to be a permanent thing.

gavThis is Gavroche – named for the scrappy upbeat orphan kid from Les Miserables – and you know what? The name absolutely fits him. He’s scrawny and tiny and scrappy. He eats absolutely anything and everything you offer him. He’s obviously lived on the streets. At the same time, he’s extremely affectionate, not in the least bit nervous about anything, and he purrs like crazy for hours at a time. He has fleas and probably other issues, but he already feels like part of the family. We have until tomorrow to decide if we’re going to keep him – my aunts plan to pick him up then to deliver him to a no-kill shelter – and I’m really hoping he’s still here by next Sunday!

I’m not getting a whole lot of reading done these days. Contrary to my expectations, I didn’t actually listen to any audiobooks on the way down (too much traffic and rain!). I did renew my San Antonio Public Library card (yay!) and have already grabbed huge handfuls of books to start on, including Eleanor & Park, which I demolished this week. It was the first time I had a physical book in my hands in several weeks!

I hope you’re all well. I’m looking forward to catching up on my feed-reader in the near future, and seeing what you’ve all been up to!

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