Sunday Coffee – Anniversary and Christmas

On Tuesday, Jason and I celebrated our 21st anniversary. Originally, we had planned to spend a weekend early in December in a remote location near a state park, where we could hike and such during the days. That all go canceled of course when Morrigan suddenly needed to come home, and we’ve had a lot of house-crazy since then (seriously – we’ve had to rip out several windows due to the incompetence of the original house builders, KB Homes, in addition to having our oven break down completely a few days before Christmas). It was destined to be a quiet anniversary.

Jason took the whole week off of work for our anniversary and Christmas, and subsequently for house projects (sigh). So on Tuesday morning, we had a lazy morning for a bit, then went out for a walk/hike at a nearby park. After that, I got to work on some house-chores while Jason got to work on house-building. We had a break in the middle for a Red Robin lunch delivered via my in-laws. The afternoon returned to various House Stuff, until it got dark and we decided to spend the last part of our anniversary together. Jason made chocolate chip waffles with orange mascarpone cream for dinner, and we ate that while listening to Christmas music and opening up our first package from the Blair Witch mystery box game. So it was a very low-key anniversary, and I’m sure we’ll plan for our quiet weekend getaway sometime later when covid isn’t surging everywhere and it’s a bit safer to go out.

Then there was Christmas. What a normal Christmas looks like for us: Lots of traditions (movies, cookies, ornament books, etc) leading up to the 24th; a Christmas Eve Day at my aunt and uncle’s house with my dad’s side of the family; an evening home celebration where we each get a single gift; Christmas morning at home; followed by Christmas morning at my mom’s house; followed by Christmas afternoon at my dad’s house; possibly followed by a day-after-Christmas gathering at my maternal grandparents’ house (though this is often reserved for NYE, where we have a big bonfire and chili potluck). It’s busy and full of family and absolutely wonderful.

This year, of course, looked nothing like it. Instead, our spread-out-covid-times Christmas looked like this:

Dec 23rd: Morrigan’s longtime girlfriend, Katy, came over in the evening, where we all sat out on the back porch with masks to do our little family Secret Santa gift swap. Then, after Katy left, we went back inside and logged on to a virtual Sibling Swap opening/reveal with Jason’s side of the family. Both gatherings were short, but nice.

(Katy and Morrigan)

Christmas Eve: Most of this day was taken up by house construction again. I went out for a festive hike in the morning with one of my hiking buddies (and her doggos), then spent the day reading while wrapped in a blanket. The house construction meant cutting a 6×5 foot hole in one wall, so it was COLD in the house! But all that gone done in time for the day’s main plans. My sister, brother-in-law, and half-sister came over for a masked, distanced fireside chat in the evening. It was quite lovely despite the cold. After they left, we went inside and played this awesome Blockbuster Video game that Jason got us for Christmas shenanigans. Then we each opened our one Christmas Eve present, and got everything ready for “Santa.” (This year’s letter to Santa from Laurence – it’s always Laurence – involved a bunch of conspiracy theories based on The Santa Claus movie. Jason Santa’s response began with “We hungered” and ended with “so now we ho and ho and ho and ho and h–“)

Christmas Day: On Christmas morning, I woke to find Nutcracker sentinels outside my door, preventing me from leaving my room. Ha! I made sure all the Santa stuff was in place, and logged into a Zoom gathering with my other sister, whose three young boys had been up since 5:30. Got to see her whole family plus my brother, who lives in the DC area, via this Zoom for a short while before my own boys were scrambling to get to their own stockings and gifts. Normally at this point, we would travel to my mom’s house. Instead, we FaceTimed my sister (the one who was here the previous night). She and her husband (pictured above) were at my mom’s house, so we got to do a bit of gift-opening virtually. Later in the day, there was yet another virtual gathering for yet another sibling swap, this time with my siblings. (Oddly, I was far more exhausted after a day of short virtual meetups than I ever was on one of those traveling-around-to-multiple-houses Christmases!) It was nice, though, as nice as we could expect for a covid-Christmas. Here are a few pictures from throughout the day –>

Dec 26th: Two socially-distanced gatherings today rounded off the Christmas celebrations. My mom and stepdad came over to exchange gifts on our back porch in the early afternoon. Afterwards, we went over to my dad and stepmom’s house for some drinks and cupcakes and talk in their back yard. It was perfect weather for outdoor gatherings, mid-60s and sunny and breezy. Just lovely. I didn’t get any pictures from these gatherings, because I was too busy enjoying the non-virtual meetups. Let me just say that I really hope that next year, we can have a real Christmas!!

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Merry Christmas!

I know it’s a lonely time right now and this stupid pandemic is wreaking havoc on a lot of people’s plans (including ours), but I wish you all the happiest of holidays regardless. Hope you each find some joy in the day.

Photo: Christmas 2007, boys aged 7 (Morrigan, in yellow), 5 (Ambrose, in blue), and 3 (Laurence, in orange)

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Wellness Wednesday – YWA Breath

Some years, I do more yoga than others. This is one of my more off years. My fitness-time has been rather preoccupied with other things: running and hiking, specifically. The only time I was practicing yoga consistently was when I was in Wisconsin this summer. Altogether, I’ve only managed to complete 96** yoga sessions this entire year, and my body is suffering accordingly. Yoga helps alleviate my chronic neck, back, hip, and foot pain, in addition to loosening up tight muscles/tendons, building strength, and improving my mental health. In other words, I need more yoga in my life!

Every year, the yogi I follow – Adriene Mishler, Yoga With Adriene – puts out a free 30-day yoga practice for January. I’ve participated in these 30-day challenges every year since 2016. Some years, I actually manage to finish in January. Other years – like this one! – it takes me six months to get through the whole program. One month or six, I always finish, and I’ve loved all but one of these. (More likely than not, I didn’t enjoy that particular one because I was experiencing severe chronic fatigue that made every yoga move grueling. It was the Year of the Hives.) They are built for all abilities and all levels, with modifications and explanations throughout. I highly recommend each and every one of them, even the one I disliked, heh.

This year’s theme is Breath. I’ve signed up, and I encourage everyone to sign up as well. There’s a daily email with a link out to the free practice, as well as a calendar that gives the length of each practice so you can plan.

Though I don’t plan to give up hiking or running anytime soon – well, at least I hope to return to running when my body stops doing stupid things – I do plan to return to yoga more regularly. If nothing else, yoga serves as a perfect warmup for strenuous exercise, and helps to keep me grounded in my body. My body has missed it this year. I’m always, always 1000% better with yoga in my life. Even if it’s just a 10-15 minute session to start the morning.

So in just over a week, I’ll take a Breath and begin. Set up my mats. Turn on my flower lights and open the blinds. Embrace my inner self and the world around me. Reconnect to the earth and to the Core of my being. It’s going to be beautiful.

**I have a goal to make it to 100 sessions by the end of 2020. Wish me luck!

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The Lady’s Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness, by Sarah Ramey

From Goodreads: Sarah Ramey recounts the decade-long saga of how a seemingly minor illness in her senior year of college turned into a prolonged and elusive condition that destroyed her health but that doctors couldn’t diagnose or treat. Worse, as they failed to cure her, they hinted that her devastating symptoms were psychological.

The Lady’s Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness is a memoir with a mission, to help the millions of (mostly) women who suffer from unnamed or misunderstood conditions.

Ramey’s pursuit of a diagnosis and cure for her own mysterious illness is a medical mystery that she says reveals a new understanding of today’s chronic illnesses as ecological in nature, driven by modern changes to the basic foundations of health, from the quality of our sleep, diet, and social connection to the state of our microbiomes.

This book was recommended to me by one of my GGS coaches, who hadn’t read it, but had heard from another client that it was spot-on. And it was. Ramey really hits home in so many ways. I was warned in advance that the book could get a bit wordy – it probably didn’t need to be 400+ pages, tbh – but I personally didn’t mind that. It felt a lot like a conversation, and I enjoyed Ramey’s speaking style. And other than one section – a very long drawn out discussion** of the literary hero and heroine journeys, followed by an in-depth conversation of gender construction in our country – the rest of the book was 100% relevant to me and my own Mysterious Illness (not to mention past Mysterious Illnesses).

There’s a discussion of vague symptoms that all add up to a greater whole, and the doctors who tend to look at individual symptoms only. There’s a collation of data on the rise of autoimmune disorders over the last 30-40 years, especially among women. The usual doctors-treating-women-as-hysterical-and/or-hypochondriacs is also addressed. I often felt like I was reading my own words and experiences, all the crap that I’ve gone through with doctors since my first Mysterious symptoms in 1998. And while I am not as sick as Ramey has been, not as low on the continuum of Illness, I still sit squarely in the middle of the “wtf is going on with this body” situation that is encompassed in this book. As I read, I felt like I was having a discussion, finally, with someone who understands.

Once upon a time, a friend of mine began to call me “the body detective” because I’m constantly investigating and analyzing my situation to find the root of the problems I have. While I’m flattered by the title, it’s frustrating at the same time, because I shouldn’t have to be my own body detective. I shouldn’t have had to diagnose my own teeth infections on the 11-year-long illness that claimed the first decade of my adulthood. I shouldn’t currently be struggling to figure out why and how the 25+ symptoms I currently have fit together. Because yes, I believe in root causes. I believe that there is something at the bottom of these complex networks of symptoms. There may be more than one cause, and the symptoms might be compounded by Many Other Things (all of which are discussed at length in this book), but I believe we CAN find answers, if not total healing – because let’s be real. When you live with a Mysterious Illness for decades, the damage is done regardless of whether or not you remove/fix the original source. And that can be a really tough thing to accept.

Other than the one section** that I already mentioned, I loved this book. I took screenshots of many, many quotes from it. I felt validated and heard in so many ways. (Reaction at one point: “Wait, did she literally just mention dental bacteria as a potential cause of chronic infection??? NOBODY BELIEVES ME ON THIS ONE!”) I loved that Ramey emphasized human connections and the need to feel a purpose in one’s life as part of health and wellness. I loved that she acknowledged that no one solution fits everyone, and that these issues are complex and multifaceted, and that sometimes we can only do as much as we can do. (Heh. At one point, the book says, “Doesn’t matter if she takes melatonin, or uses a weighted blanket, or powers down her electronics by 9:00…what matters is that she…does not give up on finding a way to make [sleep] work.” Check. Check. Check. Yet I still don’t sleep. Yup.)

Because of this book, I’ve done some additional research into my personal nutritional situation, my frustrating doctor situation (link to one of MANY posts on the situation), and my medical-status-over-time situation (again just one of many posts on the subject). I’ll continue to be a Body Detective until I can find a medical professional (traditional, functional, whatever) who can help me, or until I find/fix the root causes of my Mysterious Illness. And books like this help – for the resources, for the data, for the knowledge, for the acknowledgement, for the validation, for the understanding, for the being-heard. It’s not a Fix or an Answer, but sometimes what we need isn’t a Solution, but an Exploration. That’s what this book does, and encourages each of us do in turn.

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**This section very well may be interesting or relevant to other readers. I have personally never been one for archetypes or trope-journeys, whether hero or heroine, and I don’t find meaning or purpose in these sorts of things. But this is a very individual stance. I know many folks do find meaning and validation in relating to a larger story like this. So I’m not knocking this part of the book. Just saying that for me, it was unimportant and I basically skim-read it as not relevant to my personal journey.

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Sunday Coffee – Winter Bucket List

Unlike my summer and fall bucket list / sketchbook / goal thingies, I don’t really have definite ideas about dates for similar winter and spring projects. Both summer and fall are very clearly defined in my mind – one by the boys’ summer break, one bookended by the beginning of the RIP reading event and the day after Thanksgiving. I didn’t want to move directly in from season to season – it’s nice to have a break of a few weeks between each of these little projects! So I chose somewhat arbitrary dates for my winter goals. Well, the dates themselves are significant, just not significantly winter. I’ve chosen to make this project an anniversary-to-birthday project, to go from December 22nd to March 1st. Since it’s not a leap year, this is exactly ten weeks, and hey, I do like these sorts of things to be tidy! Heh. So here is what I’ve got planned. With 20 tasks, it’s slightly more than my summer goals, but not quite the insanity that was my fall list.

In no particular order:

  • Complete YWA Breath
  • Give blood
  • Walk/hike a new-to-me park/area
  • KonMari catch-up of my room/clothes
  • Volunteer at the library (if allowed)
  • Walk the wiggly sidewalk
  • Create a 2021 vision board
  • Finalize my 2021 goals
  • Learn more about photography
  • Fireside night with the fam
  • Update my bucket list
  • Run the ASPCA 5K
  • Support a local/small business
  • Zero out my podcast backlog
  • Build the wall around the front tree (next phase of xeriscaping)
  • Catch up on backlogged medical appointments (2+)
  • Host a personal (at home, just us) Super Bowl party
  • Do a personal tarot reading for 2021
  • Use up 10+ cubes of scented wax (still cutting down the excess!)
  • Read 1+ of the Sanderson drafts I have waiting for me
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Quarantine Diaries – Week 40

So…this was a weird week. It had good news, and a frustrating turn of events. Read on for oddities on our (possibly-pointless?) ten days of family lockdown.

Numbers: 99,142 cases, 1,440 deaths, 1,100 seven-day rolling average, 12.5% positivity rate (down 3.2%). Despite the decrease in positivity rate, everything else continues to climb sharply upward. Hospital admissions saw record numbers of daily new admissions multiple times this week, and we’re approaching the threshold of strained hospital capacity that we had this summer. One in five cases in the hospital are now covid-related. Texas as a state appears to be even worse – one day there were over 58,000 cases reported in a single day. !!! I have to think that was some kind of backlog issue, as we’ve been averaging around 13-15k, but toward the end of the week, there were a few 20k+ days, so there’s that. Things are so bad in Texas – the worst surge that any state in the country has seen – that the White House is again urging the state government to start shutting things down and taking more precautions. (So far, the request is ignored.)

School cases are also on the rise, with all school districts in San Antonio reporting a great spike in numbers since the week of Thanksgiving break. Not unexpected, but also very worrisome as the districts just blithely keep saying nothing is wrong. Our local high school reported 11 student cases and 1 staff case in the last week.

Everyone is itching for this to be over. The vaccine started to arrive in SA this week, with 6,000 doses on Monday and another 20k+ to be delivered throughout the week. (One of my friends, who works at the hospital on base, got his first-dose covid vaccine this week!) However, the city leadership is cautioning that it might be June before we have enough doses for the general population, and also that it’ll take “at least six months” before virus transmission subsides and things can start returning to normal. Unfortunately, too many people seem to be taking the news of the vaccine as a license to let down their guard. With Christmas around the corner, this is really scary.

Other random news from San Antonio this week. I mentioned recently that the city shut down a strip club that had been in violation of covid guidelines multiple times. Well, this week, the strip club sued the city, claiming that the city shouldn’t enforce covid guidelines. Really. The city in turn sued the strip club, claiming that it should be permanently closed and the building boarded up for at least a year, because over 300 calls to police have been made for drugs, prostitution, shootings, etc in the last couple years. It’s becoming an Ordeal. *eyeroll* On the more serious side of things, Metro Health is seeing another shake-up in leadership, with more people leaving or shifting positions. Everyone is burning out. Pandemics suck, especially when you have incompetent leadership that has done NOTHING to quell the cases exploding throughout the country. When the president is a science-denier…sigh.

Now to discuss our personal family lockdown, day by day, including the frustration that came toward the end:

Day 6 (Friday): Jason had his covid test in the morning, with results to come back in 3-5 business days. Morrigan feels 100% better, and if he continues to have no symptoms through the end of the weekend, he’ll come out of isolation on Monday (Day 15 since his first day of symptoms). If Jason has no symptoms and his test comes back negative, he’ll be able to come out of isolation on the 19th. So far, all of us are doing well. (Pic is of yoga – trying to exercise during isolation.)

Day 7 (S): I woke up with a sore, swollen throat this morning. This likely means nothing because: 1) I cooked a meal last night using a jarred korma sauce, not realizing that it would be super spicy, which my body CANNOT take. I got really sick afterwards – like food-poisoning sick – so the throat swelling might be related to that. 2) It was really hot/humid in the house, so I put my fan on overnight. I usually get a swollen throat the first time I use my fan after awhile with it off. 3) A wet front came through, bringing in who-knows-what allergens. It’s not unusual for people to get major allergy symptoms around this time of year here. But, you know. It’s the “is it nothing or is it covid” game. We’ll just keep on the way we’ve gone and hope it’s enough. My throat felt normal by noon.

Day 8 (S): No recurrence of yesterday’s symptoms. We all feel fine. Morrigan is still adjusting to a normal sleep patterns after working nights, plus he’s dealing with some sad news (unrelated to covid).

Day 9 (M): Morrigan came out of isolation today. He’s 15 days past his first symptoms, 14 days past his covid test, and 5 days without symptoms or even a mild fever. We’re still nervous because there’s no clear line as to when someone with covid is no longer contagious, but he should be okay, according to doctors. Since he’s out of isolation, I armed myself with masks and gloves, then Lysol-ed the heck out of the room he’s been staying in.

Day 10 (T): Jason’s test results came back late in the afternoon – negative!! Yay! We suspected this would be the case since he’s had no symptoms at all. Now, the plan was to keep him in isolation until Saturday, but we had a little discovery in the evening. Long (VERY long) story short, Morrigan showed us a screenshot of his test results. Which, as it turned out, weren’t for an active covid test. They were for an antibody test, which only detects a past infection. To complicate matters further, while the results (from Quest Diagnostics) clearly said they were antibody results, all current antibody tests are done by blood – but Morrigan says that his test was a cheek swab. He also could only show us a screenshot of the results, saying that that’s all the health clinic emailed him and that he no longer had the email. Um…hmm. Okay. So everything we knew was suddenly called into question. He may have had an active covid infection, or he may have had an infection at some time in the past, or this may be something else entirely. Given the conflicting information, we aren’t sure about anything anymore – which, I admit, is frustrating beyond what I can put into words. Either way, we decided it was probably safe for Jason to come out of isolation (given his negative test and lack of symptoms) as long as we don’t share food, kiss, etc. The whole thing is a complicated, very-long-story mess, so I guess all I can really say is that I’m glad we played it safe regardless. No matter what the situation actually was, everyone is healthy now. I’m going to leave it at that.

PS – At the time of publishing this post, Jason is on his Day 14 and still has no symptoms whatsoever. Just in case anyone was worried about him coming out of isolation on Day 11.

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Wellness Wednesday – An Attack

Last week, I had an Experience.

Let me start by making a confession. After doing really good in November to cut back to only a single cup of coffee almost every single day that month, the stress and worry of my family’s current covid situation caused a sharp increase in consumption. I began drinking 2-3 cups a day again, which I know is really Not Good for my body. I also made the mistake of buying iced coffee for our isolation period, which is dangerous for me! So about a week ago, I started working to cut back again, first from three to two cups. After a few days of this, I had the Experience.

Last Wednesday: I only drank one cup of coffee in the morning, so after lunch, I allowed myself a tumbler of iced coffee. I drank it slowly over about an hour. By the end of it, I started feeling odd, and I knew I was about to have a major hypoglycemia attack. I quickly made myself a protein-and-fat-heavy snack with some quick carbs to stabilize. By the time I finished making it and sat down at the table, I was dizzy, weak, and shaking, in full-on hypoglycemia.

There is no reason I should have had an attack. I literally had lunch right before drinking this cup of coffee, and it was only an hour between lunch and this hasty snack. But it’s also not the first time I’ve had hypoglycemia attacks after drinking coffee. It’s actually quite common if I drink it when it’s been a few hours since I’ve eaten, for instance. Doesn’t matter if I drink it black, with half & half (like that day), or with sugar/flavorings – actually, happens less if there is sugar in the coffee. This is why I’ve taken to drinking coffee only right after meals.

Anyway, that was only the first half of the Experience. The next half came the following morning. I had breakfast (full fat Greek yogurt with blueberries, wheat germ, cocoa, and honey) and decided to have my iced coffee for the day at the same time. I didn’t want to risk it in the afternoon again. I finished about half the coffee during breakfast, and took the rest back to my room to drink slowly as I read a bit. Roughly 15-20 mins later, just a few more sips in, I noticed that my stomach felt weird after taking a drink. It settled out, but the weird feeling returned after the next drink. By the third, I realized that the weird feeling was the same that I get preceding a hypoglycemia attack. Only it was happening while my stomach was still full from breakfast. I knew that if I kept drinking, I would make myself really sick. Again. Because I was paying attention, I was able to catch myself in time. I dumped out the rest of the coffee, and then didn’t end up having a hypoglycemia attack.

I’m not sure why coffee affects me like this. It’s not the caffeine, because other caffeine sources don’t (and decaf coffee DOES). But it’s just another sign that I need to double down to remove this altogether.

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The Blood Card, by Elly Griffiths (audio)

In this third volume of the Magic Men series, Edgar Stevens and Max Mephisto are called in by the military to investigate the suspicious death of their former commander. Only no one is who they appear to be, everyone has a past skeleton they’re trying to keep buried, and politics become a tricky business as the new Queen of England is crowned.

So it took awhile, but by this third book, I finally became invested in the narrators of this story. The key to really good mystery/crime series for me is that the detectives and their associates offer good stories of their own, and I’ve found that a bit lacking in the previous volumes. Now, not only did I not want to stop listening, but I immediately downloaded the next volume to dive into. The mystery itself was captivating as well, and like the previous two, the audio narrator, James Langton, did a great job. I really can’t say much more than that – it’s difficult to review later volumes in a series without discussing anything that might give away previous books’ plot points! In any case, it took some time but I finally feel the investment in this series has been worth it. Hopefully that remains the same with the next two books!

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Sunday Coffee – If not for audio…

The other day, my sister-in-law asked me if I’d heard anything about Piranesi by Susanna Clarke. I told her that a lot of people seemed to love it, but I hadn’t been able to get into it when I tried to read it back in October/November. While we chatted, I realized that I should try Piranesi again someday, this time via audio. After all, I spent years trying to read Clarke’s Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell without success, unable to get more than a page or two into the book until I downloaded the audiobook. Suddenly, the book that seemed so dull in print was instantly captivating. The audio was the key to the book’s lock for me. My reactions to the print and spoken versions couldn’t be more different.

That got me thinking about other books that fell into this category: beloved books that I never would have read without the audio version. There are quite a few of them. Besides Jonathan Strange and Mr Norrell, audio gave me:

Howl’s Moving Castle by Diana Wynne Jones: I spent years trying to read this one, never making it beyond the first few pages. I didn’t like the tone of it, from my print reads. It took Jenny Sterlin’s narration to make the book come to life. After I listened to it, I proceeded to listen to it…um…more times in a row than I care to recount.

The Raven Boys by Maggie Stiefvater: While I loved the opening chapter, I gave up on the book the first time I met Gansey and his crew. The scene felt too young-angsty-boy-teen to me. Years later, I gave the book a second chance via audio. That scene still felt meh to me on first read (when I didn’t know the individuals well enough yet), but I liked the narration enough that I kept going. That allowed me to discover just how wonderful the series is!

Any book by Brandon Sanderson: After reading a wonderful NaNoWriMo pep talk by the author, I really wanted to read something he’d written. He was WAY out of my comfort zone, though. I knew that the only way I’d make it through would be to try via audio. I picked out Mistborn, and that audiobook opened me up to what is now my favorite author’s works.

The Return of the Native by Thomas Hardy: I’d read Tess of the D’Urbervilles years before, and while I ultimately enjoyed my book club’s discussion of the novel, I’d found the book painfully pastoral to read. I hadn’t planned to read more Hardy, until I discovered Alan Rickman’s narration of this book. Not only did this audiobook make me fall in love with spoken novels more generally, but it made me fall in love with Hardy’s work and go on to read many more of his books (which I think are almost universally better via audio).

There are a lot more examples. I’ve read far more nonfiction over the last decade than I would have without audio. I’ve explored many genres outside my comfort zone this way. There are books I could only get my hands on via audio version. Audiobooks helped me to slow down and really experience books, as well as help me to hear an author’s voice when I’m struggling with it. Not every book is good this way. I listen to few classics or literary books via audio, for instance, and I’m super picky about narrators. But audio has opened worlds for me that I wouldn’t have had without it, and helped me find some of my favorite books – even among books I couldn’t get through in print. I’m sure more will follow. Who knows? Maybe one day I’ll download Piranesi and discover that I love the book after all. I guess we’ll see.

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Quarantine Diaries – Week 39

We’re nearly a week into full-on household lockdown now. I’m going to do a day-by-day on this below, after more general news.

This week’s numbers: 91,394 cases, 1,412 deaths, 1,063 seven-day rolling average (up 268), 15.7 positivity rate (up 6.5%!!!). These are the jumps we’ve been expecting, and the numbers from Thanksgiving are only barely beginning to seep in. Hospital numbers are seeing jumps too, and we’ve been told the only reason they aren’t worse is that most of the new covid cases are from the age 20-29 group and potentially require less severe treatment like hospitalizations. The schools are struggling, too. Our school district gave a final tally for November: 132 student and 98 staff cases, while the first week of December reports 85 student and 39 staff cases – more major increases. Our local high school reported 15 students and 1 teacher with covid this week.

Speaking of schools, the situation has gotten so bad in San Antonio that the city marked the school risk level as high/red and also put out an amended health directive for schools this week. They recommend that in-person learning be suspended altogether for all but the most vulnerable groups (special ed students, kids without access to internet at home, etc), and that vulnerable groups be kept in pods of no more than six people. They also say that if in-person classes continue in any capacity, covid testing should be proactively provided to at least 25% of in-person staff every week. Of course, they don’t have the authority to enforce this directive – it’s just their recommendation based on current danger. But the school districts have already responded. Nah, their campuses are perfectly safe, thankyouverymuch, anyone who wants to come in can keep doing so! Ugh.

More SA news. Somehow, in the midst of all these rising rates, the Spurs have decided they will start letting fans attend games again in January. Tell me how that makes sense?? // Arguments have broken out about who should get the vaccine after healthcare workers and first responders. People in vulnerable neighborhoods? Teachers? Divided by age? It’s not like we’re going to have any say, in the end… // The very few bars that were recently allowed to open – the ones that don’t sell food – were forced to close again as of yesterday. Honestly, if 2500 of the 3000 bars in SA just got a food license so they could be reclassified as restaurants this summer, and only a couple dozen of the remaining actually reopened a month ago, I’m not sure why we’re bothering to close them. They’re a tiny portion and probably not related to the surge in cases. If bars are a problem – and they have been, I know – it seems they all need to shut down, not just the few who were shut for months only to reopen for a measly few weeks. I feel for those business owners. (PS – I’m sure the city leaders would close all bars if they could, but the TABC sets the rules for the state.)

On the home front: Other than our personal lockdown, Jason’s sister had a covid relapse and couldn’t breathe, prompting her to go to the hospital by ambulance on Friday morning. She was put on fluids and oxygen, and began to feel better. Saturday saw her fever spike in the morning, but after that, she’s been fine. They finally let her leave the hospital yesterday.

Now, for our own lockdown story…

Note: For any who may have missed it last week, Morrigan’s university said he couldn’t stay in the dorms with a positive diagnosis despite the fact that none of his roommates were on campus any longer and isolating in his room would have been far better than traveling across the country while contagious. Grr.

Pre-Lockdown Days (Friday, most of Saturday): Jason left early Friday to head to KS, picked up Morrigan on Saturday morning, and drove back down to TX, arriving around 8pm. While they were traveling, I moved all of our doctor’s appointments from the next two weeks to either before or after our lockdown. Friday evening, my friend Natalie and her husband Chris drove over with a giant box of covid supplies. Her family all managed to somehow survive covid this summer despite their many pre-existing conditions (including asthma and cancer!), and she knew all the things we might need. We’d done our own shopping, but she came with four times as much as I thought we needed and said to trust her. I also did some last minute grocery pickups and the boys wanted to go to Dunkin one last time before we couldn’t for two weeks (above). To complicate matters, our dishwasher broke (wouldn’t drain) for the second time since we got it in August. This means not only will we need to wash everything by hand – meaning that the covid-handled dishes won’t be nearly as sanitized – but we can’t get a workman out for several weeks due to having covid in the house. UGH.

Saturday evening: I discovered real quick that Natalie was right as I went through far more gloves and wipes in an hour than I expected. Jason and Morrigan got settled into their rooms. We started working out logistics, especially for things like dealing with our sick kitty who is quarantined in Jason’s room. Morrigan is almost back to 100% healthy. Nausea is gone (as evidenced by his bacon cheeseburger for dinner on the way home), he’s not really coughing, and he has no fever. He’s still in the contagious period (day 7 from when symptoms first appeared) but I’m REALLY hoping he’s less contagious than before. I’m very worried about Jason, being in the same car together for 13-14 hours.

Day 1 (Sunday): For the first time ever, I’m thankful for mild weather returning so I can shut off the heater and open the windows during the day. The more outside air and less recirculating air, the better! // Realized I read the quarantine rules wrong. We need 14 days after the last date of exposure, so assuming no one else gets sick and Morrigan continue to improve, our last day of exposure will be Tuesday. That’ll put us in quarantine until around the 22nd. If anyone else gets sick, it’ll go even longer, and will likely cancel Christmas altogether. Sigh. Though I did talk to my sister (who works at a high school), and she said that if Morrigan has been in his room full time, it’s unlikely there’ll be enough exposure to us to count. (Needs to be 15 mins at 6 ft apart.) We’re still going to treat it as if it does, but at least it feels less worrisome now, except for Jason of course. // Morrigan had a fever in the evening for the first time since he got home. // Jason fixed the dishwasher. We all had to stay out of the room, then afterwards I scrubbed everything with lysol. Heh. But thank goodness we can fully sanitize dishes!

Day 2 (M): Morrigan is in his relapse period that tends to happen with covid. No fever in the morning and still eating normally (very hungry, which is a good sign!), but he feels like crap and his cough has returned. He slept all day. (Meaning he went down at 10am only a few hours after waking, and didn’t get up until we woke him at 5pm when we went to check if he was okay.)

Day 3 (T): Still no symptoms/fever for Jason. Morrigan is feeling a lot better this morning and has no fever. He said he was tired and a little sore, but not feeling feverish. He’s still sleeping a lot night and day, which I think will help him recover. A bit of a fever in the evening but really low-grade (99). (Pic: Nimi misses her dad. This has been hard on the cats, unable to greet their humans when they leave the rooms to use the bathroom, or hang out with them in their bedrooms.)

Day 4 (W): Pretty much a repeat of Tuesday. Jason scheduled a covid test for Friday morning. Morrigan says he’s not feeling sick at all anymore, though he’s still sleeping a lot and having slight shifts from normal temps to low-grade fever – still no more than 99.4.

Day 5 (Th): Unfortunately, due to some miscommunications when we were prepping for this quarantine, we missed a large chunk of necessary groceries, including basics like pasta/rice as well as any vegetables at all. If we were good on veggies, I could do curbside pickup, but vegetables are difficult to pick out remotely because 1) you don’t know what will be there week to week, and 2) you don’t know the quality – Texas is difficult that way. So today I armed myself with every precaution and rushed through a visit to HEB. I feel quite bad doing this, despite my sister telling me that technically I haven’t had any exposure to covid because I haven’t been around either Morrigan or Jason for more than 30 seconds at a time. Sorry, HEB folks! Notably, I did make sure to go early in the morning when almost no one was around, so hopefully I kept any potential exposure to a minimum. Still, I’m asking for forgiveness here. We were woefully underprepared when we thought we were good.

So that was our first few days of lockdown. Jason is scheduled for a covid test this morning, to give us an idea of what we may or may not be dealing with. Morrigan is pretty much fully recovered now but we’re still keeping him isolated for awhile longer. So far none of the rest of us have symptoms, and I hope to have more good news next week!

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