Sunday Coffee – 2018 Goals

The last four years have followed the same pattern. As New Years approaches, I make goals. Sometimes they’re elaborate, sometimes simple. Sometimes they start off going well, sometimes they don’t. Either way, about halfway into the year, my family moves across the country, starting a new life and essentially nullifying any plans or goals I made. Four years, four cross-country moves. Nomadic life is difficult and terrible, and I feel like I’ve wasted so much time.

This year, we plan for no more moves. (This is the plan from here on out, actually.) I’m making my 2018 goals with two things in mind: first, that there won’t be a major move to interrupt them this year, and second, that these goals need to be focused mostly on healing and recovering from the last four years. I’ve chosen to focus my year on the word Cultivate – as in cultivating a life, body, and mental health that will bring happiness and fulfillment, cultivating a place of purpose and permanence. I had that, once, back before my nomadic life began, and I’d like it again going forward.

Health
Both my physical body and my mental health need lots of help this year, so I’ve made a large list of goals to focus on these.

  • Work on losing weight, with a goal of 3 lbs per month – but know that my body has been resisting loss, so keep eating and exercising well even if my weight doesn’t change
  • Participate in at least one social 5K
  • Get at least four professional massages focused on injury-prone areas
  • Exercise at least 750 minutes per month (aim for 200 per week)
  • Practice yoga consistently through the year (aim for at least 10 sessions per month) as a way to increase strength, promote mental wellness, and lessen chances of injury
  • Aim to walk/run at least 25 miles per month, or 300 for the year, barring injuries
  • Focus nutrition on a diet that will lessen depression (less sugar and refined carbohydrates) and promote healthy sleep (higher percentage of real foods)
  • Find a therapist that will work well for me, then individualize mental health goals with her

Environment
This category will work to improve the things around me, especially by removing any stressors that keep me anxious and worried.

  • Do our best to sell that house in Wisconsin. We can’t control everything, but we need to stay on top of this.
  • Strictly follow the monthly budget and work on paying off as much of the credit card as possible (hopefully all, if the house sells)
  • Finish the afghan that I’ve had in progress for 18 months
  • Use or give away the rest of my yarn surplus
  • Avoid social media stress (especially on Facebook), including politics, personal dramas, and excessive negativity
  • Work (within budget) to make the house and yard as enjoyable and comfortable as possible
  • Go to five new-to-me places in town, and/or attend five local social events (not hosted by current friends and family, unless it introduces me to new people/places)
  • If my mental health and time situation allows, aim to volunteer at one or more of the locations that are important to me (library, animal shelter, etc)

Just For Fun
Because I need some fun in my life, not just serious goals!

  • Visit the San Antonio Cat Cafe and hang out with all the kitties!
  • Visit the local meat market that Jason and I have been saying we should try out for over a decade
  • See at least one movie in theatre
  • Try out a new TV show
  • Visit the zoo at least once (I do have a membership after all!)
  • Do one of those “paint your pet” nights at Painting With a Twist

While it would be lovely to write again, this year needs to focus on stabilizing my family and home life, and getting healthy again in mind and body. If I end up writing as a way to do these things, then that’s fantastic! But at the same time, I don’t want to put that pressure on myself. Body, mind, and environment will come first in 2018.

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2017 in Books


This year was a fairly good one for me in books. There were a lot of highly-anticipated releases, most of which lived up to my expectations (or beyond!), and I had a few good surprises and discoveries along the way. I don’t expect to finish any more books this month, so it’s about time to wrap up the year! Let’s start with a short accounting of the year’s reading stats, then move on to the traditional End of Year Book Survey from The Perpetual Page Turner, adapted slightly to work for me.

Total Books: 72
Rereads: 17
Abandoned after the 50% line: 3 (The Shadow Rising, Fellside, and Beasts Made of Night)
Classics: 1
Translations: 1 (French)

Book Type: 62 fiction – 9 nonfiction – 1 other
Fiction Type: 43 speculative – 19 realistic
Media: 27 text – 39 audio – 6 visual
Audience: 41 adult – 30 YA – 1 children’s
Authors: 51 female – 20 male – 1 both

New-to-me authors: 28
Most Read Authors (excluding rereads): Brandon Sanderson (4), Liane Moriarty (3), Robert Jackson Bennett (3)

Fun facts from the year: I had four titles from two series that began “City of” and I’m about to begin a fifth from a third series. Ten of my reads were the third in a series (I had a lot of series end this year!). I also read two books that involved sin-eating.

Best Book-Related Discovery: Sometimes it really is fun to read books in installments over weeks and weeks! I’ve never had that pleasure/experience before. Yay Oathbringer!

1. Best Book(s) You Read In 2017?
Oathbringer by Brandon Sanderson was always going to be my number one this year. Others that ended up in my top five include A Face Like Glass by Frances Hardinge, Strange the Dreamer by Laini Taylor, Wine Isn’t Rocket Science by Ophelie Neiman, and Arcanum Unbounded by Brandon Sanderson. Runner-ups (not pictured) include Wires and Nerve by Marissa Meyer, The Empty Grave by Jonathan Stroud, All the Crooked Saints by Maggie Stiefvater, and Night of Cake and Puppets by Laini Taylor.

2. Book You Were Excited About & Thought You Were Going To Love More But Didn’t?
The Savage Dawn by Melissa Grey

3. Most surprising (in a good way or bad way) book you read?
The Call by Peadar O’Guilin (in good ways!)

4. Book You “Pushed” The Most People To Read (And They Did)?
I kept pushing A Face Like Glass by Frances Hardinge, but sadly only got one person to actually read it. So I’ll keep pushing!

5. Best series you started in 2017? Best Sequel of 2017? Best Series Ender of 2017?
Started: Strange the Dreamer
Sequel: Oathbringer
Ender: The Empty Grave

6. Favorite new author you discovered in 2017?
Frances Hardinge

7. Best book from a genre you don’t typically read/was out of your comfort zone?
And I Darken; Now I Rise – the two Conquerer’s Saga books by Kristen White (historical fiction)

8. Most action-packed/thrilling/unputdownable book of the year?
Oddly, this was Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty. It’s not action, but I really just could not put that book down. I also couldn’t set down Night of Cake and Puppets, but that one was super short so it hardly counts.

9. Book You Read In 2017 That You Are Most Likely To Re-Read Next Year?
Oathbringer. That’s a given.

10. Favorite cover of a book you read in 2017?

11. Most memorable character of 2017?
Mulaghesh from the Divine Cities trilogy, Mak Genggang from Sorcerer to the Crown, and Lazlo Strange from Strange the Dreamer

12. Most beautifully written book read in 2017?
All the Crooked Saints

13. Most thought-provoking/life-changing book of 2017?
The Case Against Sugar (thought-provoking: yes. life-changing: hopefully)

14. Book you can’t believe you waited UNTIL 2017 to finally read?
Half the Sky

15. Favorite Passage/Quote From A Book You Read In 2017?
“The trick to happiness wasn’t in freezing every momentary pleasure and clinging to each one, but in ensuring one’s life would produce many future moments to anticipate.” (Oathbringer, one of many quotes I adored)

16. Shortest & Longest Book You Read In 2017?
Shortest physical book: White Sand Vol 1 (160 pages)
Shortest audio: Twelve Angry Men (1:50).
Longest in both categories is Oathbringer, with 1235 pages and 55:02 audio play

17. Book That Shocked You The Most
Oathbringer – in so many ways, but I talk about the biggest (no spoilers) at that link

19. Favorite Non-Romantic Relationship Of The Year
The friendship between Shara, Sigrud, and Mulaghesh in the Divine Cities trilogy; also Jasnah and Renarin (cousins) in Oathbringer

21. Best Book You Read In 2017 That You Read Based SOLELY On A Recommendation From Somebody Else/Peer Pressure:
Wine Isn’t Rocket Science (thanks Candace!)

24. Best Worldbuilding/Most Vivid Setting You Read This Year?
A Face Like Glass, followed closely by that in the Divine Cities trilogy

25. Book That Put A Smile On Your Face/Was The Most FUN To Read?
Wires and Nerve

26. Book That Made You Cry Or Nearly Cry in 2017?
Oathbringer, multiple times

27. Hidden Gem Of The Year?
A FACE LIKE GLASS – Come on, people, read it!!!!

28. Book That Crushed Your Soul?
Once again, Oathbringer. Oh MAN it was soul-crushing, one of the biggest soul-crushers ever. (see link above)

29. Most Unique Book You Read In 2017?
A Face Like Glass (do I sound like a broken record yet?) and All the Crooked Saints

30. Book That Made You The Most Mad (doesn’t necessarily mean you didn’t like it)?
The Husband’s Secret (and sadly, I didn’t like it)

That about wraps up the year for books! See y’all on the other side!

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Night of Cake and Puppets, by Laini Taylor

In the Daughter of Smoke and Bone trilogy by Laini Taylor, Karou’s best friend is an absolutely amazing “rabid fairy” named Zuzana. Zuzana has the biggest crush on a co-worker she knows only as “violin-boy,” and her rabid-fairy-ness flees whenever she’s around him. In the series, she and violin-boy, later known by his name (Mic), eventually do meet, but it’s all behind the scenes. This book is that behind-the-scenes meeting, with the characteristic drama one would expect from Zuzana.

Honestly, I’m not sure if this book would be in any way interesting to someone who wasn’t already in love with Zuzana, Mic, Karou, and the books they populate. I have no way of determining if this book would even read as a full-on standalone. Perhaps it would, and perhaps it would be a wonderful little quirky love story that might introduce people to the bigger world and series. Or perhaps it would fall flat and/or make no sense. But as I am one of those people who is already in love with Zuzana, Mic, Karou, and the books they populate, I was also absolutely in love with this book. I’d read a whole trilogy of Zuzana and Mic alone. What else is there to say? It’s an amazing book, at least for fans. And a great book to end the year.

Bonus: the physical copy comes with many, many illustrations, plus a scene from the original series turned into graphic novel form. I imagine that I’ll also get the audio version and listen to the story in voice as well – it’s the sort of story that would be magical on audio, especially if there is music to accompany sections! – but I had to start with the print version for the illustrations. Jim di Bartolo’s art is beautiful and just perfect for the book.

Reread via audio in January 2018 – Kristine Hvam and Kevin Collins narrate the audio, and it’s just as brilliant as I was hoping. No music, sadly – Mic’s violin serenade would have been awesome in there – but still brilliant. Fun story, good audio. Lacking illustrations of course, so get the print version just for those if you read via audio!

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Book Priorities of 2018

Today’s Top Ten Tuesday asks what we are most looking forward to reading in 2018. As I said back in early November, 2018 looks to be a bit of a dry year for me in terms of book releases by authors I love. I have very few books waiting for me on my TBR pile (physical or virtual), and I’ve done a good job keeping my to-investigate pile pretty low as well. My list of bookish priorities in 2018 is rather small this year in comparison to previous years, but here goes.

Books published prior to 2018:
1. A Skinful of Shadows – Frances Hardinge*
2. Stillhouse Lake – Rachel Caine
3. The City of Brass – SA Chakraborty*
4. Consider the Fork – Bee Wilson
5. Sirens & Sinners – Hans Helmut Prinzler*
6. The Clothes Make the Girl (Look Fat)? – Brittany Gibbons*
7. My Brigadista Year – Katherine Paterson
8. Flight of the Silvers – Daniel Price

Books releasing in 2018:
1. Wires and Nerve vol 2 – Marissa Meyer (Jan)*
2. Markswoman – Mati Rehmotra (Jan)
3. White Sand Vol 2 – Brandon Sanderson (Feb)*
4. Tarnished City – Vic James (Feb)*
5. An American Marriage – Tayari Jones (Feb)
6. The Invasion – Peadar O’Guillin (Mar)
7. Bright We Burn – Kiersten White (Jun)*
8. Sorcerer Royal – Zen Cho (Sept)*
9. Skyward – Brandon Sanderson (Nov)*

Books that have hints that they might release in 2018 but probably won’t (I can hope, right?):
1. Lethal White – Robert Galbraith
2. The Muse of Nightmares – Laini Taylor
3. The Lost Metal – Brandon Sanderson
4. the next Shades of London book – Maureen Johnson

[Note: Since this is more than ten titles, I’ve starred the ones I’m most looking forward to, excluding those in the last category since they probably won’t release.]

Like I said, small year, especially given that I’m not sure if any in that last category will actually release. Plus, only a handful of these titles are guaranteed reads – some may be culled as I try the books and move on. Still, I’m hopeful that I’ll enjoy a big chunk of these, and that my small list will give me plenty of time and opportunity to discover new things in 2018!

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Sunday Coffee – Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

From my family to yours, have a wonderful Christmas!

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Eighteen Years

That’s a long time to be married, a lot of ups and downs and everything in between, lots of changes and evolution over time.

Bring on another eighteen years! Happy anniversary, J.

Now, we’re off today to hunt out a new wedding ring to replace the one USPS lost! Wish us luck! 🙂

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WW: The Case Against Sugar, by Gary Taubes (audio)

A personal history: I grew up in the low-fat high-carb era. As an example, my mom made Kraft mac and cheese with just the noodles, cheese packet, and a bit of skim milk, because the butter the box called for would make the meal “bad for us.” I had cereal for breakfast, a sandwich with chips and a snack cake or fruit snacks for lunch, and equally carb-and-sugar-heavy snacks and dinners. Part of this was the nutrition info available at the time (“fat makes you fat!”), part was the lack of money for much in the way of meat. I personally didn’t drink soda because I never liked it, but I did have a particular sweet tooth for chocolate. Thankfully, though, my mom didn’t give us stuff like white bread or chocolate cereal, so at least there was some degree of moderation. We also had teeny tiny portions, and combined with competitive swimming, I was underweight through most of my adolescence.

(Dumb pic, but gives an idea of my size in high school)

The first time “sugar might be a problem” hit my radar was when my dad brought home the book Sugar Busters in the mid/late 90s. I didn’t give it much thought, though, until my sophomore year of college. I tried to “get healthier” by cutting out a lot of meat/fat and eating more in the way of corn, potatoes, and whole wheat breads. While I’d never had a problem with my weight before this – I didn’t gain an ounce my freshman year – this particular dietary change triggered something inside me. I began to suffer from hypoglycemia, which eventually developed into full-blown insulin resistance (though I’ve yet to develop diabetes, and hope to never do so!). The hypoglycemia led me to study more in nutrition, and after a few years, I discovered that a relatively higher-fat-lower-carb diet did wonders for me. I’m not talking super-low-carb like Adkins, just an adjustment from a diet that was probably 75% carbs to one that was closer to 40%.

It’s been 13 years since I made that discovery, and I’ve changed my diet a lot in that time. I still have far too much of a sweet tooth, though, and have suffered from it. Hypoglycemia continues to sneak up on me when I’m not careful about sugar. I have full blown PCOS and hypoglycemia. My triglycerides are borderline too high – something that science is more and more coming to realize is due to sugar, not saturated fat. I know all this, have known it for a long time, but sugar is just so hard to remove from the diet! And as I’ve been thinking about my health a lot lately, and about things like how the calorie-equation-theory just doesn’t add up, I decided to do a bit more research into sugar – hence, this book.

In The Case Against Sugar, Taubes lays out a history of the sugar industry, of the increase in sugar consumption in our culture and in cultures across the world, and a strong case that sugar is the primary – if not only – cause of a myriad of western diseases and disorders. He discusses the increase of insulin-sensitivity over time, passed down from mother to fetus, and the way insulin resistance and metabolic disorders spill over to just about every part of health. Taubes does not, however, offer any kind of weight loss or health plan – this is a history-and-science-of-sugar book, not a diet book. He tries to persuade readers of the dangers of eating sugar, but doesn’t sell any kind of product, plan, or lifestyle.

I learned a lot from Taubes’ research. I didn’t know, for instance, the roll that sugar has played in cigarettes, and in making it easier to take nicotine in, increasing addiction. I didn’t know the history of the sugar industry’s crusade against artificial sweeteners, or their influence on national policy (though that last bit doesn’t surprise me). I learned that Americans are consuming somewhere between 90 and 120 lbs of sugar per person per year (an amount that equals about 3/4 cup daily). I learned about the way insulin affects so many different parts of your system, and how when one part is out of sync, the rest suffer, and so insulin resistance can cause disruption all over the place. Some of this stuff, I knew or kinda knew, but this book made a lot of the relationships very clear. It’s the third or fourth book I’ve read that has stated that many doctors are starting to call Alzheimer’s “type 3 diabetes” (something that’s important to me, given family history) and discussed the way cholesterol is far more affected by sugar than fat.

Unfortunately, there haven’t been enough studies done to know whether or not a strong decrease (or complete elimination) of sugar can reverse insulin resistance, metabolic syndrome, and other related diseases. As I stated before, this isn’t a diet book that gives you a recipe for better health. Taubes states that it might be possible to reverse some damage, but a lot of that will depend on genetics, the extent of damage, and the degree to which a person changes their diet.

But honestly, even if there’s only a little hope, I know this is something I need to do. I said this before, last week, when I talked about decreasing sugar for my mental health. I’d also really like to improve my insulin levels, counter my PCOS as much as possible, and be able to lose weight. In the past, I’ve only completely eliminated sugar once, for four weeks. I also eliminated flour and grains at the same time, so there may be some conflicting factors there, but during those four weeks, I lost 12 lbs – while eating the same number of calories I’d been eating before. My diet during those four weeks was at a 25-25-50 ratio of protein-carbs-fat, and unfortunately it wasn’t really a longterm sustainable thing. I’m not going to 100% repeat the experiment. But for the last few days, I’ve been trying to keep my sugar** at under 1 oz per day (equal to 28 grams, or 2.27 tablespoons, daily, or about 23 lbs per year – much less than the American average). I’d like to try to keep this up as much as possible over the next few months and see what kind of difference this makes to my blood stats (next blood tests to be taken in April), insomnia, weight, and insulin levels. (I’m also trying to cut out flour as much as possible, since that basically turns right into sugar when you eat it, though this won’t count toward my levels.)

Jason is on board, too. He just had some blood tests done and his cholesterol is too high. Guess what his doctor told him he needs to do? Cut out sugar. Yup. It feels so good to hear doctors starting to get on board with this rather than telling us to cut out eggs and meat. So he and I have a plan of how we’re going to eat over the next few months until his next blood tests in March and mine in April. Wish us luck!

**This does not include natural sugars from milk, fruit, or vegetables. Just table sugars of all kinds and the sugars added into foods, condiments, desserts, etc.

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Top Ten Books I Hope Santa Brings!

Topping my list of potential Christmas gifts this year are…

1. Wine Isn’t Rocket Science – Ophelie Neiman

2. The Empty Grave – Jonathan Stroud

3. Night of Cake and Puppets – Laini Taylor

4. The Trespasser – Tana French

5. Crooked Kingdom – Leigh Bardugo

6. Sorcerer to the Crown – Zen Cho

7. Real Food, Fake Food – Larry Olmstead

8. White Sand – Brandon Sanderson and Rik Hoskin

9. Lady Audley’s Secret – Mary Elizabeth Braddon

10. City of Brass – SA Chakraborty

What’s on your list?

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Sunday Coffee – House

So on Wednesday, we got big news – an offer on our Wisconsin house! A good offer, too! We were working with our relocation company on how to sign it over and such, when the realtor called to tell us the couple pulled out of the offer. Already. Cold feet. Wife had a “bad feeling” about it. Apparently they hadn’t even seen the house, because they live in Texas (ironic, eh?). An agent had walked through for them and recommended making an offer. So there’s that down the toilet. Sigh.

However, it does appear that our new realtor is making far more of an effort than our old one did. We’ve been with this new realtor for a month now, and we’ve had more showings and more activity than we did in the entire four months we were with the other realtor. And that was during the summer, when activity is high! So, fingers crossed, something else will come up.

Update on the ring: No news, likely not going to be found. Jason and I plan to go ring-shopping on our anniversary, which comes up this Friday.

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Protected: Into the Bright Unknown, by Rae Carson

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