Sunday Coffee – Surgery Success

On Wednesday, the alarm clock went off at 5 am. Jason and I both stumbled awake and quickly got ready to go. At 5;30, we woke up Laurence half an hour earlier than usual, because he had to get ready for his last day of first semester summer school, and we had to leave for the hospital.

The hospital is located in one of two parts of town that I find extremely confusing and hate driving in. Thank goodness my antidepressant calms my anxiety, right? Jason put on my phone’s GPS to help guide me, and since he’d been there recently, he was able to get me live directions as well. We actually made it to the hospital without incident, and after getting semi-lost trying to get into the parking garage (it’s REALLY confusing!! Why is the entrance to the garage tucked behind some dumpsters five turns after you go through the entry that SAYS it’s to the garage? But that’s just they built it…), we finally got out of the car. We walked along a long sky bridge to the hospital itself and found our way to admitting…which was closed that early in the morning. Um…

By this point, we were already 15 minutes late. I found a reception desk nearby with a security officer sitting at it, and figured maybe she could help. Jason and I walked up, and they immediately assumed we were there for labor and delivery (groan!). We cleared up THAT misunderstanding, explained that Jason was scheduled for surgery, and the officer asked where the doctors had told him to go this morning. (Note: This hospital is so big that it consists of multiple buildings interconnected by sky bridged and passages. It’s also one of about a dozen hospitals all sandwiched into the same location – Medical Center – which makes everything more confusing. See why I hate going to this part of town yet??) The doctor hadn’t given Jason a location, just a time, so the officer guessed that we needed to go to the sublevel 2 basement of the South Tower. She gave us a long, complicated set of directions to get first to the right set of elevators and then to the OR waiting room on SL2.

Long story short: we finally got to where we belonged, filled out paperwork, and set up to wait. Within half an hour, they took us both back to the OR prep area and started getting everything prepped. The doctor met with Jason first and marked his neck, which really did look like just a slash across his throat. But I guess when you’re having a parathyroid gland removed – a gland that’s the size of a grain of rice – there’s not much in the way of marking.

Side note: When a loved one is going through a surgery that might potentially nick his vocal chords and cause permanent damage (among more serious dangers), it makes you feel really awkward when the doctor/nursing/staff team can’t get themselves together. They told Jason to change, and he did, only to be told by someone else later that he needed to wipe himself down with these antiseptic wipes left for him that no one mentioned before (with lots of eye-rolling from the nurse about other nurses’ incompetence). But, you know, despite all that, I wasn’t too worried to be honest. Having been through four surgeries myself, my greatest fear is the IV…

Anyway.

We answered a LOT of questions. I think they asked Jason why he was there about a dozen times, mostly to the same person. I can’t tell if they were assessing his mental state (making sure he knew what was going on) or asking for legal reasons each time they did something new (like put in the IV or record his list of medications). Eventually he went off to surgery, and a nurse led me to a waiting room. At that point, I had not only my stuff for the day but all of Jason’s overnight stuff that he thought would be tucked under his OR bed, so I was basically like a pack-mule. (Especially because Jason for some reason brings all his work stuff with him everywhere, including multiple sets of electronics. His bag is HEAVY.)

All I knew at that point was that the surgery would take 1-1.5 hours and then after a couple hours of recovery where I wasn’t allowed to be with him, they’d find him a room and take me up. Instead, the doctor came to speak to me after half an hour and the surgery was already done and successful. About three hours after that, they finally sent me off to his room. Only they sent me to the wrong tower (Central, instead of North), and when I arrived on the right floor of central to find a cardiac wing with no patient rooms, I had to find someone to lead me to the right place. And the person I found was a doctor who had only worked at the hospital for three months, and he had to go ask someone else where to go and how to get there. Then the two of us went together. (I later had several nurses tell me that they’d worked there for several years and STILL get lost.)

Finally, FINALLY, I got to see Jason. He had this tiny bandage on his throat and a breathing tube in as well as an IV, and he was asleep. I stayed with him for a few hours as he went in and out of sleep, partially disoriented. Once he was lucid and just needed to rest, I drove back to my kids, who of course were doing perfectly fine on their own, but it still worries me to leave them alone for the entire day, you know?

Jason was up and walking around by the end of the evening, and other than his throat swelling pretty badly that night, he didn’t have any complications. Laurence and I went to pick him up the next day – and I didn’t get lost trying to make my way from the entrance to the actual garage this time, yay! We ended up waiting for several hours because no one was communicating. The doctor hadn’t come to see him, but we knew he had to be discharged by a certain time or billed for another night in the hospital. Finally I called the nurse and discovered the discharge paperwork was all together already, they just hadn’t gotten around to it. Sigh.

So finally they came to take out all the IVs and such, and after a mild complication – Jason bleeds tons after an IV is removed, it turns out – we were on our way home.

Since then, he’s been well. His throat is sore and he can’t talk loudly, and he’s still on a soft food diet, but he’s recovering well. Our family made it through the third surgery of the summer without major incident. Woohoo! All is well in the Gignacery.

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June 2019 in Review

June has been my family’s busiest month so far in 2019. We had two surgeries, a graduation, two parties that we hosted and another that we attended, college orientation, summer school, Jason changing to a different team at work, Jason’s parents stuck in town for weeks due to their RV situation, and a family member in and out of the hospital. On top of that, one of my best friends is going through a very tough situation that I’ve been trying to help with, and I spent a big chunk of the month going through stupid PTSD limbic-stuck trauma from years ago. To say that I’m spent is an understatement. Just keep swimming…

Books
I don’t generally read for specific themes, and I didn’t mean to read anything specific for Pride month this month. However, I ended up having an accidental Pride month galore, with half of my books featuring various LGBTQIA+ characters or topics. The City in the Middle of the Night had potential to be my favorite of the month, but the abrupt ending threw me, and I think that let a visit from familiar characters in The Alchemist’s Illusion edge it out of first place.

Health
I’ll be honest. My health was pretty poor for the first three weeks of June. I got majorly PTSD-triggered on the 1st and it was all downhill from there. I fell into some really bad habits, stopped tracking all the things I normally track, and pretty much just crashed. I did keep exercising because I love Aquafit and circuit training, plus the boys wanted to go to the gym quite often. At least there was that. I did finally manage to get myself back on track around the 20th. Some of it was sheer determination, and some of it was wrapped up in Harry Potter: Wizards Unite, which got me out and walking again, gave me something healthy to occupy my brain and time.

(Laurence and Ambrose play with Harry Potter filters)

Highlights of June
Between the crazy schedule, the unexpected problems, and the PTSD stuff, June was a rough month for me, but I still had some good moments to appreciate.

  • hosting friends for dinner
  • Morrigan’s graduation and grad party
  • Morrigan’s oral surgery going smoothly
  • Jason getting medically cleared (no cancer!) and through the first of two medical procedures smoothly
  • finally watching Strangers Things season 2 (just in time!)
  • HARRY POTTER: WIZARDS UNITE!!!!!!
  • my cousin’s baby shower –>
  • more Great British Baking Show (I love this show so much!)
  • finally starting the Good Omens mini-series, which is awesome so far

Coming up in July
July will start out crazy again with Jason’s second (and more serious) surgery of the summer, followed immediately by Morrigan heading off for a week hiking part of the Appalachian Trail and my brother arriving in town for a week. Thankfully after that, the rest of the summer will be easy peasy. (Fingers crossed.) July is also a big birthday month: my mom, stepdad, sister, and Ambrose all have birthdays. And right around the time of the last birthday of the month, Laurence will finish summer school. I imagine we might just get about three weeks of nothing-major-scheduled before we take Morrigan up to college and then immediately have a wedding to attend! One month of crazy summer down, two to go!

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Sunday Coffee – Random Thoughts on an Early Morning

-I don’t like being a single mom – though it’s easier with only two kids, kids old enough to mostly look after themselves – and I’m really glad Jason and Morrigan are home from college orientation.

-I’m also glad that Morrigan loved orientation and got a lot out of it, and that the drives up to Kansas and back were safe, if not uneventful.

-The cops in Oklahoma are baffling. You’d think that if you pulled over to check someone on the side of the road, and it’s 3pm and 105 degrees out, and the man and son sitting in the car have run out of gas and will be waiting an hour for the insurance company to arrive with some, you’d say more than, “There’s a gas station at the next exit. Have a nice day.”

-It’s 67 degrees out this morning! First time it’s been under 70 degrees in about two months! Unfortunately it’s about to storm, which means I won’t be taking a walk like I’d like…

-Speaking of walks, why do games like Harry Potter Wizards Unite always come out in the dead of summer? It means that the walking can be quite unpleasant for those of us in the deep south. Why not a fall or spring release, so that everyone in the country can have some pleasantness?

-Speaking of Wizards Unite, I’m still having so much fun. But I was dismayed when I went out to walk several miles on my local hiking trails yesterday morning because of the SOS event that was happening on Saturday, only to get a notice at 1pm that the event was starting now, and by that point it was 100 degrees and I’d already done hours of exercise and about 15k steps. Oh well.

-I discovered during my few days of single-mom-hood that I don’t actually despise cooking like I’ve always thought. What I despise is prepping a meal – planning what to make, and cutting up any meat and veggies needed. I’d happily do the rest of the cooking if these things were done for me.

-I have soooooo much to get done today…

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The City in the Middle of the Night, by Charlie Jane Anders

From Goodreads: Set on a planet that has fully definitive, never-changing zones of day and night, with ensuing extreme climates of endless, frigid darkness and blinding, relentless light, humankind has somehow continued apace — though the perils outside the built cities are rife with danger as much as the streets below. But in a world where time means only what the ruling government proclaims, and the levels of light available are artificially imposed to great consequence, lost souls and disappeared bodies are shadow-bound and savage, and as common as grains of sand. And one such pariah, sacrificed to the night, but borne up by time and a mysterious bond with an enigmatic beast, will rise to take on the entire planet–before it can crumble beneath the weight of human existence.

I’ve been thinking about this book for days now, and my experience with it is difficult to describe. First, I’ll say that the pacing, characters, world-building, themes, and philosophic elements are all spot on. It was a wonderful book that way. I could never see where the story was going ahead of time, and it kept taking all these unexpected turns that reminded me of my first experience with Brandon Sanderson (Mistborn: The Final Empire). I like how flawed and nuanced the characters were, and the exploration of small actions having long-reaching consequences, and the way that emotion could too easily overcome rational thought even when you know better. All these things were wonderful, and as I listened to the book, it had the makings of a favorite for 2019.

But.

I don’t know. The ending was…weird. No, the ending was missing. Have you ever been reading a library or secondhand book, and flipped the last page, only to discover that several pages have been torn from the book and you don’t have the last little bit? That’s what the ending of this book was like. It cuts off randomly, in the middle of a scene. It’s not a cliffhanger; it’s not an end to one story or the beginning of another. There’s no conclusion, but there’s also no indication of what might come next. It just ends. I feel like there’s some sort of literary reason for the ending, something along the lines of, “Human behavior constantly repeats itself so it doesn’t matter where in a story we end.” Regardless of whether or not the bizarre, abrupt ending was done for a specific purpose, it was highly dissatisfying. Even if there’s a sequel planned – which I can find no evidence of – it would be dissatisfying. As I said, it wasn’t a cliffhanger. It was just mid-action, almost like ending mid-sentence. An end that isn’t an end, which is frustrating. I know it was done on purpose, but I still don’t like it. It kinda ruined what was a brilliant book for me, and I’m trying to make peace with that, because I loved everything up until that point. I think this might take me some time.

Performance: The audiobook was read by Jennifer O’Donnell and Laura Knight Keating, both of whom did an amazing job and really helped me to feel like I was right there with the action of the story.

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Wellness Wednesday – Wizards Unite!

A week ago, I didn’t know the upcoming release date of Harry Potter: Wizards Unite. I knew it was meant to be this year, pushed back from last year, but I hadn’t seen an actual release date. Imagine my surprise when I suddenly saw Adam‘s Instagram post showing he’d signed up! I immediately went to the app store to download…only to have my search come up empty. Boo!! I’d seen a comment from someone saying that they believed it was only out for Android users, so I googled the iPhone release date and found an article about how the app was out a day early. It had a link out to the iPhone app, and I downloaded at once. A couple hours later, the app became searchable in the app store, but I’d long since downloaded and signed up and gone through all the opening procedures. I was super, super excited about this!!

A brief history: Back in 2016, Pokemon Go came out and some friends of ours first told Jason and me about it on release date. Jason and the boys downloaded it, but I had never read, seen, or collected Pokemon, so it didn’t much interest me. Eventually, I was persuaded to join, and I played a little, but I could never fully get into the game. I said that I’d jump at the same game in Harry Potter format, and that’s the game that has FINALLY released.

To say I “jumped” is an understatement. Let me describe my second day on the app (my first day being homebound as Jason recovered from minor surgery – and as a side note: good news! No cancer!): The boys wanted to go to Planet Fitness. As I’d already done an hour of Aquafit, I dropped them off and drove to the library to wait an hour before picking them up. I knew there’d be some good HP-related stuff at the library and park (which is attached to the library), and my plan was to pick up what I could and then grab a book to read. This was at 3pm, with 100+ temps and a 110+ heat index and the worst kind of direct sunlight, so it would be foolish to be outside for long. I was wearing regular clothes and flip flops – also foolish for outside exercise. Foolish for walking on uneven rock trails. But hey, if I went just a little further from the library, there’d be another Inn to grab, and another, and another – there are about 20 Inns, Greenhouses, and Fortresses around the 0.7-mile Library Loop trail – and if I kept to the shade, 0.7 miles isn’t TOO bad, right? So…45 minutes later, when it was time to pick up the boys, I was sunburned and soaked in sweat and had blisters on the undersides of both feet from the inappropriate footwear…and totally happy with no regrets. Ha!

I’ve been out somewhere to play HP every day. I’ve been getting lots of steps in! There’s a Fortress at the park that’s only a few houses away from me, so Jason and I have been going  there to team up on battles and gain points and collectibles. We’ve been placing Portkeys and growing plants in Greenhouses and brewing potions and training for our wizard professions. We’re helping the Ministry of Magic, and finding hints about the magical crisis, and fighting off baddies. Probably spending WAY too much time and energy on this, but I don’t regret a thing. I love this so much and I’m so happy that after three years, this game is finally here. I’ll just keep walking walking walking my way up the Harry Potter levels!

Anyone else on Wizards Unite? Add me! My code is: 1616 3005 0666 – I’m pookasluagh as usual!

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Tell Me How You Really Feel, by Aminah Mae Safi

Rachel and Sana are not friends. When they first started in the same high school together, Sana asked Rachel out, and Rachel assumed it was a mean prank. Ever since then, the two have avoided each other. Now, they’re forced to work together on a school project, which will inevitably break down barriers…

This was a really cute romance with a lot of complicated life issues thrown in for depth. Meeting family expectations, trying to get into college, absentee parents, art vs commercialism, etc. Best part about the story for me was that these two girls had feelings for each other, but the romance wasn’t the center of their lives. They both had strong ties to family, determination for their future careers, and dedication to their work (both school and otherwise). They felt like real people who didn’t know how to communicate the best and who both messed up plenty. They were flawed in the best way, making them both all the more lovable. My only complaint was that the end wrapped up a little too quickly and unrealistically. But for a cute romance novel involving the making of a film (the school project mentioned above), I guess the cinematic ending was exactly what should have been.

Also: I love this book cover.

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Sunday Coffee – Books Galore

Every December, I compile a list of “book priorities,” which includes all the books I want to read and/or try throughout the upcoming year. I pull the list from several sources: my audio queue, my physical and virtual TBR, my library hold list, anything in my “to investigate” list on GoodReads, and any books I want to read that will be published throughout the year. The list is usually between 20 and 30 books long, and by the midway point of the year, I’ve gone through a large chunk of them. For 2019, I had 26 books on the priorities list, and as of right now, there are 10 left. Of those 10, six have not been published and three are waiting for RIP season. Which really leaves only a single possibility on the list at present – and that means it’s time to make a new list, as I usually do around the midpoint of each year.

My mid-year priorities list is less formal than the one I create in December. I kind of think of it as a rollover list – whatever doesn’t get read/culled from it ends up as the next year’s priorities. It’s really just a way for me to drag all my various lists (Goodreads, Audible, library, etc) into one location so that I don’t forget about stuff that might be buried deep in a queue. These lists also get me excited about reading again, after a few months of slump in this year’s case. I have 22 books on the new list, not including the 10 still on the original. There’s LGBTQ+ graphic novels (Gender Queer, My Lesbian Experience With Loneliness), non-European fantasty (David Mogo Godhunter, The Bird King, Soul of the Sword), new releases from authors I love (Leigh Bardugo, Rainbow Rowell, G. Willow Wilson, Maggie Stiefvater, Brandon Sanderson), and so much more. Unlike my original list from the year, I see a lot more reads and a lot fewer culls on this upcoming list, and that makes me happy. It’s been quite some time since I had a lot on my TBR that I was excited about!

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The Alchemist’s Illusion, by Gigi Pandian (audio)

Zoe is looking to put down roots in Portland despite knowing that her circumstances – she’s a 300+ year old alchemist – make that a near-impossibility. It doesn’t help, however, when attention is drawn to her via newspaper photographs and a rich woman accusing her of murder outside an art gallery.

After the third volume of this series, The Elusive Elixir, I wasn’t sure if there would be more to the story. There seemed like there could be, but I saw no hint anywhere that Pandian was working on one. So imagine my surprise when I went randomly looking for possible audiobooks to spend credits on and discovered that this book released back in January. Of course I snatched it up and began listening immediately!

It was so great to revisit Zoe, Dorian, Max, and all the others. This was a fun new mystery and great further development of several characters. I was completely surprised by revelations, and if memory serves me correctly, that’s been pretty consistent across the series. I also noticed one small change for the better in this book – there wasn’t as much emphasis on recipes in the text. A few times in previous volumes, the narrative stopped while vegan dishes were described by their processes. In The Alchemist’s Illusion, there were still references to the food cooked – it’s an integral part of this cozy mystery series! – but the flow of the narrative wasn’t stopped by processes. I thought it flowed better for that change. (On another note, I do wonder if actual recipes are given after the novel in physical editions of these books, because that would be awesome…)

Performance: Julia Motyka as usual does an amazing job with the audio. I adore the way she reads this, and I think revisiting the characters in voice was as phenomenal as learning the next part of their stories. I do hope she continues to read the series as it publishes!!

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The Lying Game, by Ruth Ware

Nearly two decades ago, four girls became fast friends at a boarding school. They kept up the Lying Game, earning a reputation for deceit, and isolating themselves from the rest of the school. Their lies were mostly harmless…until they weren’t, until the lies became secrets they had to keep for the next two decades, when those secrets start to unravel…

This was an interesting thriller because it was less about the mystery (who did it) and more about the psychological impact of lies and secrecy. The characters were well-drawn, if a little typical, and the book was perfectly paced for a good afternoon read. This was my third read from Ruth Ware, and falls smack in between the other two (The Woman in Cabin 10, which I really disliked, and The Death of Mrs Westaway, which I really loved) in terms of enjoyment. Honestly, I think I read it too fast for it to make a long-lasting impression on me, but it was exactly what I needed when I read it, and I call that a win.

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Sunday Coffee – Enter Chaos

It’s no secret that I don’t do well on chaos. I thrive on organization, routine, and predictability. I don’t mind a bit of whimsy or change, but I don’t function well in environments that are pure chaos. The boys have been out of school for less than two weeks, and already, pure chaos is what I’ve got.

This week was graduation, then finding out that Jason’s parents’ RV can’t be fixed for a week or two, then Morrigan’s oral surgery. Some days we had people over. Some days I played chauffeur and drove kids back and forth between places. Some days I was on constant nurse duty. Exercise routines – yeah right! Eating schedules? Nope. Paperwork and errands? Postponed. My desk looks like something exploded onto it. My email is overflowing. The living room is currently functioning as Morrigan’s bedroom. Nothing is where it belongs, and most days I’m avoiding my computer, my desk, and almost every part of the house.

So I tell myself: This is temporary. Tomorrow, Laurence starts summer school, which will put a bit of organized routine back in our days. Jason’s surgery is scheduled, so I know which weeks I’ll be a nurse/single mom, and can plan for them. Starting in mid-July, there are no more medical procedures upcoming, and we have about a month of summer-normal until it’s time for school to start again. I have about a month of chaos to make it through. I can do this.

Lists are my friends. Lists will get me through this without cracking. Plus coffee. Fingers crossed, everyone!

PS – Morrigan’s oral surgery went swimmingly and he’s pretty much back to normal already.

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