Things I’ve Learned About Single Momhood

The biggest issue with your spouse working for a company in another state is the potential time spent in that other state. For the second time this year, Jason just got home from a week in Nashville. From Easter until late on April Fool’s, I was a single parent again. The last time he was gone, I was adjusting to a new medication, and somehow all three of my kids managed to come down with the stomach flu. Seriously. This time, we had a far easier time of things, but between these weeks with Jason away, I’ve learned some things about single momhood.

1. I’m really not going to cook all that much.
I hate cooking. I always have. It’s not that I can’t cook, because I can, and I’m actually pretty good at it. I just hate doing it. The only time it’s even semi-pleasant is when I’m making something I really love and have an audiobook that I’m so into that I’m looking for excuses to keep listening to it. Most of the time, though, I’d rather everyone make sandwiches, or order pizza, or pull out frozen emergencies meals.

2. Bonus: When you don’t cook much, the kitchen stays mostly clean.
The boys enjoyed having fewer kitchen-related chores. On the downside, it’s harder to run the dishwasher often enough when there’s mostly cereal bowls and spoons to wash. Hmm, what else can we fit in here…?

3. Juggling the schedule is tough with one driver.
In the mornings, the two younger boys had to let themselves out of the house via garage, because I was dropping Morrigan off at the time. In the afternoons, Morrigan had to find a ride home because I was waiting for the bus to drop off the younger boys. On days with after school activities, I found myself leaving the house and coming home sometimes three times in a row. Also: it’s important to make sure no appointments are scheduled in single momhood week, because it’s simply not going to happen. (How do you full-time single moms handle it??)

4. Waking up at 6:15 sucks.
Does that sound whiny? Oh well. I’m the sort of person who cannot live on fewer than eight hours of sleep, and it’s better if I get more. After three babies, the biggest lesson I learned is that I cannot get up over and over in the night. I will be completely sick and wasted after two days. Thank goodness Jason can get up at night without really waking up, or we might never have made it past those infancy stages. Jason is an early bird, and gets up around 6ish even when he doesn’t have to. I, on the other hand, prefer to sleep in just a bit longer, maybe to 6:45 or 7:00. Don’t have that choice on single-mom weeks. And then coffee becomes my best friend.

5. It’s a terrible idea to change up medicines right before your spouse leaves town.
Things worked out well in January, but not so much this time. One of my medicine tweaks, started just before Jason left, caused me to get really sick. At one point, I was literally asking my kids if they knew what to do if I fainted, which was a legitimate concern. By Monday afternoon, I had to untweak that medicine back to what it had been, regardless of whether or not the side effects would eventually minimize. Too risky when there isn’t another adult in the house for emergencies!

6. Technology is awesome.
I wholeheartedly love facetime.

7. There is nothing better than the moment your spouse gets home.
Even better if he finagles his way onto earlier flights and arrives at 9:15 instead of midnight. Woohoo!

The End.

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7 Responses to Things I’ve Learned About Single Momhood

  1. Michelle says:

    Bwahahahaha! I have to laugh even though I feel your pain. Yes, single parenting SUCKS! For a while there, I would have added the rule that if something in the house is going to break, it will happen the minute your spouse leaves. That hasn’t happened to us in a long time though. Now, another rule I would add is that your spouse will inevitably travel during the busiest week of the month, when you were already double or triple-booked. Yet, somehow, we get through it and eventually do it all again in a month or so!


    • Amanda says:

      So far, we’ve had luck with nothing breaking – though if I think about it, both times, we had something go wrong right before J left and had to wait to fix it…like his car needing to be fixed, when he had to drive it to the airport…


  2. Jerry currently works evenings so I feel like a single mom on evenings M-F and it is NOT fun or easy at all. I completely agree with you.


    • Amanda says:

      Oh that sucks! It’s even harder when the babies are little like that because everything relies on you. My kids are old enough that at least I can pass out chores and stuff. Of course, I also have to worry about the oldest sneaking out at night, which he started doing this time, grr…


  3. Kailana says:

    Sounds stressful! Glad you made it through it okay, though!!

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  4. Shelley says:

    Glad you made it through okay and that nothing serious happened with the medication switch! My husband used to go out of town a lot more when the kids were small, and it was hard. I remember he was gone for a week when my 4th child was 6 weeks old. One of the hardest things I’ve ever done!


    • Amanda says:

      I couldn’t have done the single mom thing with babies. There was a long period there when I couldn’t be on my own with them overnight, mostly because of a sleep issue I have. I think the first time Jason left town for a few days, leaving me on my own with the kids, my youngest was 2 or 3. Even then, it was extremely difficult!


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